Have you ever attempted a long distance relationship? How did it go?

Question

I married mine. I lived in Austria for 18 months. He lived in Salt Lake City. We've been married now for 17 years.

Answer 1

im having one right now!! my boyfriend lives 200 miles away from me and we havent missed a weekend together in nearly 7 months. we`re very happy at the moment and i really hope it lasts x

Answer 2

I don't know if you have really lived until you have had an international romance attempt fail disastrously. I tried one with a fellow from Ireland- who lied about his age, weight, height, etc. We got along fabulously on-line and I hated him the moment I met him in person. It was a really horrible week, and ended when I found him rearranging my underwear drawer...

I have had several long-distance realtionships over the past 10 years. Aside from the one above, they were wonderful, and I got something out of each of them. I am actually dating someone geographically accessible right now, and it's different. I had forgotten what it was like. If you define "success" in a relationship as "ending in marriage", then I am not sure I will ever have a succesful relationship. If you define it as a life-changing experience, then all of mine have been, most for the better.

I know lots of people for whom it has worked splendidly. Several married theirs. Then there's my bad experience...

Seriously, a sense of humor, honesty, and a willingness to talk naughty by phone and e-mail work wonders.

Answer 3

Personally, I had a long distance which didn't fare well, but I've known a few which did - particularly with regular/frequent commuting. I think the potential success depends on a couple of things: expectations and needs of the participants and their willingness to be available to provide the other persons' ideas of those things to the other person.

For example, when I was 20, in the Midwest, and had a fiance who travelled from coast to coast while we were still getting to know one another, it wasn't conducive to nurturing my young and ambitious sense of how two people should have contact and be a couple.

On the other hand, a middle-aged professor had a great long-distance marriage of many years while teaching in one community while her hubby did the same in another. They both went into the relationship with the notion of such independent goals and senses of individual ability to thrive that they didn't miss or define their relationship needs in a manner demanding frequent contact. (And I've seen similar scenarios repeated, whether because two 'knew the score' early in the relationship, had enough time to cement the relationship before distance was a factor, or were mature and/or older going into the relatiosnhip and were used to living alone.)

Glad your relationship's so successful. :)

Answer 4

I have had two long distance relationships but the first one did not work out.The first one the guy lived in Washington and I lived in Georgia.He got married but ended up divorced.He started writing me but it did not work out for us.I had another long distance relationship and we are now married. He was living in Ohio and I was still in Georgia and we wrote and made phone calls.He drove to Georgia and I went to Ohio to be with him.We have now been married for 3 1/2 years.

Answer 5

I started a long distance relationship not very long ago. Its not the same ot being able to have any physical contact, but we find ways of making it work.

We both have webcams and get to see each other do whatever we want. We can call each other anytime. We have established compromises to help each other when we are tempted by those nearer to each of us.

I even plan on driving 20 hours just to see her this summer. I will probably be bringing her back.

Answer 6

Man, i lived 5 miles away from my ex and that didnt work out. I couldnt imagine how hard a long distance relationship is.

Answer 7

I married mine two...the long distance was only for four months so it wasn't that bad. He lived in Mexico and I lived in San Diego.

Answer 8

that is awesome- a friend of mine in Louisiana had a 7 year relationship with a lady from France, he moved to France a few years ago and they are happily married, I love those stories

Answer 9

It went okay until a year later. We decided that neither one of us could move our children to the other place with family and what not. Sucks because I still have love for him and we still talk every day. I guess some things aren't meant to be.

Answer 10

I'm attemping one now. We'll see what happens down the road. If you have feelings for sombody, distance shouldn't be a big factor. When there is a will, there's a way.