What is an ideal marriage partner?

Question

Is there such thing?
What characteristics are needed?
Surely there's a big list

Answer 1

NOPE...........Its so individual

Answer 2

There IS a big list, sweetie, but it is a different list for everyone.

Marriages succeed best if you both: have the same religion, the same social history, the same language, and politics, and value the same things in life. Both of you wish children, or you both do not. And it is the personality style of being able to solve differences without rage and resentment, and this is a learned skill, not one that comes naturally. It is leaving attitudes out of your marriage, staying drug and alcohol free, and choosing to not be promiscuous.

It is remembering what your mom told you...." If you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all". It is remembering things that they like, and putting their wishes before your own. And it is the ability to state things as, "I need,,,, I wish,,, I feel... rather than, accusing with such phrases as , "I hate it when you are such a jerk when you..... Why did you do that? Are you trying to be stupid......" (And sometimes is it just shutting the hell up).....See the difference? It is a determination not to stonewall your partner, and to remain honest and open. A recent study of 30,000 couples over a 30 year period showed that for ever negative comment, 6 positive ones had to cover it.... the closer those number got, the less successful and happy the couples were. And as always, marriage remains respect, admiration, passion and trust..............

Helpful?

Answer 3

Not a question with an easy answer. This is what I've learned. We can spend an eternity looking for the "ideal marriage partner" and we may even find one, or two or ten. The problem is this...YOU have to become the "ideal marriage partner" and stay that way forever. No going outside it, no changing it as you change what the other person picked you for as their "ideal marriage partner" and ulitmately it won't work.

Cynical? Yes. Honest? Yes.

Here is one sure way to find it. After a divorce, your spouse will ultimately become the "perfect mate" but will only do so to spite you.

WOW...now THAT was cynical.

Just enjoy the search...the journey. Stop obsessing about "being perfect" in any situation, or for anyone. Just enjoy the little idocincracies and oddities that will make them ideal. It won't be a look, or a perfume, or a car. It'll be something else...you just won't find it if you're looking. It'll just happen. Good luck

Answer 4

Things that are important vary from person to person, but in a very general sense, an "ideal" partner is a person who's compatible with you. The more compatible you two are, the better. When I say "compatible", I don't even mean "similar" - what I mean is that the combination of traits that this person posesses is pleasing and acceptable to you, and vice versa. The specific characteristics will depend on what exactly IS pleasing and acceptable to you.

Sure, there's probably a more or less generic "laundry list" of qualities that a good partner would have: honesty, communication skills, respect, loyalty. But beyond that, what is "ideal" for one person could be a nightmare for someone else. Basically, I have found that the more often I say to myself "I like this" and "I can live with this", the better the match.

Answer 5

No such thing. Since everyone is different their needs in a partner are different.

Answer 6

For a marriage to work and succeed in the long run, it takes work and committment from both partners, but here are some real basic requirements:

- plenty of common interests; things you enjoy doing together, as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.

- a sufficient sense of compromise; essential for working out problems with a minimum of emotional trauma.

- a sufficient sense of sympathy and forgiveness; essential for moving on when there are mistakes made...and there will be.

- a sense of teamwork and not so much selfishness. Marriage is more about "we" than "me."

Answer 7

start with both being air signs
same tastes in music
both raised great kids
same taste in foods
love to travel (even road trips)
both like the same wines and beers
both like the early mornings as opposed to the late nights
both are classed out dressed in evening attire and both love jeans and sweatshirts
both sing along to oldies
both love to cook for each other
both love giving perfect sexual favors to and for each other
bout need each other to feel complete
both have a list of things to pick up for the other always working
both enjoy the same amount of kinkiness in the bedroom
both like to experiment for the opportunity to please each other in the bedroom
both a neat niks and both houses are in order and clean
both love to shop[ and both love to surprise each other with little gift things for no reason other than love
both have a grounded religious bond and both understand what the secret of life is
both love to give and hate takers
both are passionate and love to help when needed
both are competitive and hate to lose
both love to talk and make sense at the same time
both love to drive and both love to be driven
both set goals and both can enjoy being alone and love to read

Answer 8

The list is way to long.
It needs to be someone who shares your same interests and morals.
I can truly say that I am married to my best friend. We can talk about anything. (and we do)
Someone you can laugh with and enjoy being with.
The list goes on and on.
It took me 40 years and 3 tries before I finally found the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Answer 9

My ideal marraige partner would not be yours. That is a personal choice. I have seen marraiges where I could not stand one of them but they have been married for a very long time. It all depends on you and what you expect out of the partner and what they expect out of you.

Answer 10

See: Master Richard!

Answer 11

they say certain birth months match up well