What can I do???

Question

My son, Dylan Peyton was born 2 days ago and he is finally back from the Hospital. What can I do other than change his diaper to help out? I really want to be involved in his life since I havent been with my first 5 kids (all from high school parties when I was drunk)...this is the first time I really love the mother of my son...this was all planned...I am 19, I bought my son clothes and bottles and I bought my wife breast pupm and everything...what else can I do to help out?

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Isnt he the cutest thing youve ever seen?

Answer 1

With the baby being so young your help needs to be practical - take care of the baby during the day so Mom can sleep - get up with baby at night - buy Mom a gift certificate for pedicure and stay with baby when she goes - offer to go grocery shopping - make dinner - ask her if there's anything she needs you to do.

Answer 2

Just be there, and be supportive of your wife. Tell her how great of a job she is doing every day and tell her it's reflected in how healthy and beaituful your son is. There's not a whole lot you can do at the beginning if she's breastfeeding with the baby himself but you can do wonders for your wife's ability to care for him by being a loving and devoted husband.

OH and when you come home tired from work, dont' tell her... she doesn't need to hear it LOL don't get into competition about WHO had the harder day... always assume she did, tell her she did a good job and that you're proud of her.

Answer 3

I just had my son 2 months ago and my husband helps me the most by cleaning up around the house, watching our son so that I can get some rest and changing diapers. Also, babies can go through quite a few clothes in a day so you could help by doing the laundry. Also, you could burping your son after he is done eating.

Answer 4

Other than pretty much anything Mom does, try giving her a break!!!! As a mom myself, I can tell you that just being given the opportunity to take a hot bath, or even better a nap(!!) is better than anything right now. Also try to be understanding when housework goes undone for a few days or even better do it for her! I know it's hard for guys to understand, but right now everything you do to take a little pressure off of mom really does go a long way, and in the end deepens your bond as a couple!
Good Luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like you're proud and that you want to do the best.

Here's some important suggestions:

- No one can read your partner's mind, so that means that you will have to use good, gentle communication. Ask her what she wants. I'd suggest that you offer to help in anyway you can.

-Show your love to your new baby and your partner. Take a part in both lives, but don't cause hassle by drinking, partying, not sticking to your word, and losing your temper. Offer back/foot rubs, help with house chores, etc. Be patient when everything seems to be going wrong.

-Look toward God for direction and guidance (assuming that you believe.)

Answer 6

Help her. For the first few weeks the baby really just needs to bond with mom as much as possible. he will have more moments with you once he's good at breast feeding and can endure learning to nurse on a bottle.

Just do anything you can to help mom for now. Rub her feet, get her anything she needs, keep things calm and quiet for her, encourage her.

You can burp the baby inbetween breast switches for mom, if you want to touch your son and interact with him more. Hold him when he's quiet so mom can get some rest.. that sort of thing.

Answer 7

Congartulations on the birth of yur son. I can sense that he has a proud father. Spend as much time as you an with your son. Help bath him, change diapers, have "play time" toggether where you talk to him, smile at him, just bond with him. At night when he cries, instead of letting his mother get up to feed him, you get out of bed and pick him up and bring him to his mother. The idea is to spend as much time as necessary to bond and "attach" with him, so that Dylan learns that his father can be a dependable, reliable figure in his life.

Then, as he grows, continue to do more and more thigns with him, sharing your time with him.

Answer 8

wow 5 kids at 19 omg well i think that u can help out by being there and supporting the baby's mother and like at night get up to get the baby for her to feed and u can put him to sleep and play with him and just nurture him. you could also play with him and hold him and give ur lover a break bc i am sure she is tired. u can even help feed the baby just ask her to pump and u feed it to him in a bottle. there are plenty of other ways u can help. but i alos think maybe u should go help out with ur ohter kids as well.

Answer 9

You sound like a wonderful husband and father. Mom is going to be going thru the "I want the baby all to myself phase" as she weans off this, she'll tell you when she needs a break...be reasurring, and ask her at least once a day, "What can I do for you, and baby!" make sure you state mom first, because she's the one who's going to answer this question, and putting baby first, may make her jealous of the new born! (YES! that happens!)

Answer 10

You can help by taking turns in the middle of the night on getting the baby and even taking him for a walk well the mother sleeps or even takes a breather.