I asked my partner not to get me anything for Valentines Day and everyone at his work flipped! We've been together for nearly 6 years and I've just never needed him to buy me something so i know he cares about me.
The way I see it is if he has to buy me something for me to know this then there's something wrong in our relationship. My present to him was a dinner and some quality time spent together, that I think is more important or am I just being totally wrong?
I hear about women wanting to scratch their b/f/husbands eyes out if they don't spend at least a couple of hundred on them, this to me is just superficial.
Am I wrong?
2007-02-14 07:56:39 · 21 answers · asked by Bugs 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
I think you are well grounded. My brother is skint this year. I offered a bit of cash. He said no, he and his wife talked it over, and it was okay.
That is how it should be!
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-14 09:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking a difficult question. There's no right answer to it. But I think the only reason we have such (romantic) days (ie. Anniversary, Valentines, and so on) is to show our appreciation towards our other half. There's nothing wrong with not buying presents as long as you do not forget about each other. Many people live together but they are so distant that they couldn't care any less about one another.
As long as you are in love and happy, any day can be Valentines Day for you. Days like this are like a gesture, for those who must have a reason to show their love.
Hope you all had a good Valentines Day.
PS. I'm single!!!
2007-02-14 08:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mohammad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree - I like my hubby to be spontaneous, not to make grand gestures just because everyone else is doing it!! If he's out and about and he sees something I might enjoy - a book, dvd, bottle of wine etc he'll get it for me.
I have everything I need in him, we have an honest, loving, stable relationship and we adore each other we have 3 beautiful children and we show our love to each other in many ways.
We don't get to go out very often as we have 3 little ones, but every month, for one night only we always put the kids to bed early and have a nice meal with a bottle or two of wine and sit down and have a good chat!!
A colleague of mine once spent £50 on a teddy for valentines day!!!! How ridiculous is that ?
2007-02-14 08:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defo a Hallmark holiday. Our first valentines day my bloke and I went out for a posh meal in a posh restaurant and did lovey dovey stuff. But that was just the first one. Since then I have never needed him to prove he loves ;me, he shows it every single day, and vice versa (I hope). I think it can be nice for a change to do something a bit special, but this can be done any time. There have been so many ppl on here tonight saying 'my b/f never got me anything' I think it just causes too much upset cos the average unromantic bloke will forget (or the average woman if shes anything like me!) you never know what is appropriate if you havent known someone long, you cant afford it maybe.. its just unneccessary. Nice if you can get it right, but not essential.
2007-02-14 08:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong, me and my hubby have been together 26 years and haven't bothered about Valentines day ever, we love each other very much, buy each other little gifts throughout the year, we don't need today to show each other how much we love and mean to each other and those that do, well how very sad, I have seen girls in tears today because their man didn't splash the cash on them, sorry but I think its very shallow of them to expect that from a relationship, if money is their main turn on then god help their relationship cos it ain't going to go far is it.
2007-02-14 08:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't important. All I care about is that he comes home to me every night and he has for more than 25 years. The important thing is that you love each other and you know it every day. Some years I get a present and a card and others I don't. It doesn't matter to me.
So I would have to say that I agree with you.
2007-02-14 09:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right. My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have the exact same outlook on V-day. We dont need one day in the entire year to show each other that we care and we dont need to shell out hundreds of dollars to proove our love for one another. The bond we share is far too speacial and strong for these kinds of hallmark holidays. You go girl! We go out for lunch or dinner and celebrate the time with each other (which with one kid is very hard sometimes :o))
2007-02-14 08:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by Luv Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to set expectations ahead of time. My partner gives me flowers every week. Chocoates randomly, notes, cards and kisses on days that are not just Valentine's Day. So for today, we talked about it.. I didn't want anything special, but it was good to communicate. We agreed on a card and a kiss. Setting the expectations is KEY.
2007-02-14 08:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by lkbwitched 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been married almost 13 years. I would much rather take the money and pay off a bill or two.
I told my husband not to get me anything, we'll get a little something for the kids and have a quiet night at home.
2007-02-14 08:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why should they have to spend all that money on anything for u for 1 day of the year, if its to show they love u then dont u already know that because you're with them, last year i wouldnt let my b/f get me anything for valentines day
2007-02-14 08:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋