When I first moved from an island to the city I started working in a hotel. I missed my friends from back home and then I met this girl who I was working with and we got along so well. We ended up becoming best mates, did everything together, even after we both left the hotel, we spent most of our free time together and soon became best friends. We completely connected and understood each other. Then suddeny she stopped replying to my texts and started blanking my phone calls. At first I thought it would pass then I realised she didn't want to speak to me at all. I was really upset and didn't understand why. Then recently I found her on a website (bebo) through a friend so I sent her a message saying how I missed her friendship and that I didn't understand what went wrong between us....and she's blanked me again! Really don't know why, I haven't done anything wrong, she's just dumped me. What should I do? Why has she done this?? Thanks in advance
2007-02-14 07:56:14 · 23 answers · asked by AMY S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hmmm... how strange. Maybe you did something to offend her? thought you were hitting on her, or maybe the other way around? or maybe she just doens't want to be your friend anymore?
2007-02-14 08:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Janine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest, why do you want to stay in a frindship with someone so flakey? But on the other side maybe she is going through some personal stuff right now, and some people cope by shutting the people they know care the most about them out. Maybe wait it out a little longer, keep making attempts and if this lasts for more than a month with NO response at all, move on!
2007-02-14 08:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard leaving your home and making new friends (I also moved away from home almost 4 yrs ago & have yet to meet a "true friend"). Something has happened to cause her to dismiss you. Maybe it's just her? If she refuses to respond after all of your attempts then you should free yourself of the stress of what happened and take care of yourself. If she really respected you and your feelings she would have responded. You can't hold yourself responsible for something you don't even know about. It's obviously her problem. If she wants to miss out on a great friendship then that's her decision. You deserve better than that and should seek someone who does respect you and would honor your friendship.
2007-02-14 08:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one, although it is easy for me to say. When someone drops or dis... a person or friend they may not really have been your friend, possibly misunderstood when you had a conversation, or the person is sensitive and does not accept things well, the person may have emotional issues you can not see thought computer so said friendship. It is difficult to know anyone through the computer, so many times people are not what they appear to be and especially when you can not see them. Sometimes people no matter the age become attached and that is not good because of what your feeling and thinking. Remember the ones closest to you are more important you know them personally, the computer is like gambling you never really know who you are talking to. Think about you and your real life and find someone else to talk to but don't get attached. May be get a puppy.
2007-02-14 08:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by Firedogfire 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really wouldn't worry about it cuz there's nothing you can do. she obviously has some major issues with you n i don't think you can do anything about it. i'd just ignore her like she's ignored me. you don't need friends that aren't there for you n leave without giving you any reason for that. she left the friendship without even giving you an explanation n you don't deserve that. don't put up with it n find new friends. if she messages you back on bebo say: how come you never messaged me back? that isn't fair 2 me cuz i didn't do anything 2 you. i don't understand why you keep blanking me cuz everything waz going fine n then you changed.
don't be nice 2 her cuz you're just letting her stomp all over your feelings. if she really cared about you she'd at least tell you why the friendship waz over.
2007-02-14 08:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do things for the strangest reasons. Sounds like possibly someone was jealous of how close you two were, and a lie popped up somewhere with your name in it. But you should move on, give her some space. Find some new people to hang out with. Friends will come and friends will go. But if you guys are real friends she will be back. Then you two can straighten out what ever happened.
2007-02-14 08:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just have to accept that she doesn't want to be friends anymore, hard as it may be for you. Some people are very much like that, they use people for as long as they need them or it suits them.
Remember how you first met, she knew you were a stranger and therefore vulnerable and that you would become reliant on her. It's a control and power thing.
Then when they're done with you, dump on you and move onto another unsuspecting person.
She will be getting a kick out of how many times you are trying to contact her.
Please be strong and move on.
2007-02-14 08:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by lynn a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice girl. Forget about her and move on, it's her loss We all use people at certain times in our lives for all sorts of reasons maybe you filled something in her life at that time. You deserve better than this. I would not waste any more time thinking about her. You have learnt an important lesson in life treat people the way you would want to be treated yourself and remember what goes around comes around. True friends in the future will restore your faith.
2007-02-18 05:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by lyndy loo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation really is a horrible one to be in, as you never know what is going through theit head.
Someone could be spreading rumours and telling her lies to make her dislike you, which is REALLY annoying.
try putting 141 before the number and ringing her.
She will probably pick up if the number isnt yours.
Then talk to her from there, ask her what you have done wrong.
If she hangs up, she is so not worth your time, shes just being a noob.
2007-02-15 00:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by a.boozie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sad but people do change over time. Your real friends dont blow you off! of course you havent done anything wrong here, if you did she would have told you and you probably would have realized it. You seem like a very nice person so dont let this girl get you down. Focus on your true friends for a while. wait for her to come around.
if she doenst, forget about her!
2007-02-14 08:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry you're friend is acting this way. Maybe she just wants to be alone right now. Or somebody told her something about you that isn't true. For now just leave her be. That way she doesnt think you are too clingy or just plain out annoying. I hope that helps. I know exactly what you are going through.
2007-02-14 08:06:42 · answer #11 · answered by Alena C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋