My dad and I don't get along at all. I just found out that he has been cheating on my mom. I saw some pictures on his camera. What should I do?
2007-02-14 07:56:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Confront your Dad. Because if you are wrong you may make an enemy of your mother. Besides what are you doing looking at your parents private stuff?
2007-02-14 07:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would do nothing. Chances are, your mom already knows. If it bothers you that they don't get along, you could try and talk to whichever parent you feel closer to - not about the cheating, but about their feelings for each other in general. I don't know how comfortable you are in discussing something so personal with your parents, it depends on the relationship you have with them. But I would not bring up the cheating, as it would be very painful and embarrassing for everyone.
2007-02-14 16:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first find out who the pictures are of. way before you jump to any conclusions and then say dad you wouldn't cheat on mom and if you did I don't think it's cool. If you didn't all is good. But! If he admits to it say "you might be able to fool mom but you cannot cheat on me indirectly like that. I will always be your daughter but I just lost some unknown amount of faith in you" Please stop or get a divorce I don't even want to think about this until it's resolved.
2007-02-14 16:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your dad about the pictures? & see what he has to say.If he is cheating ask him what should you do as you love them both & need help understand this. If he gets mad at you then make a choice as if your mon finds out you knew than she will be up set as you didn't tell her .Its a terrible spot you have been placed in so try not to make yourself feel guilty.
Your in a tuff spot play it cool & learn from there mistakes. There are help line you can call without giving your name you might try this. Best of luck
2007-02-14 16:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart , so so sorry to hear that ,it really breaks my heart .Look first face him ok ,let him know that you know ,but tell him that you will give him a day or two to tell your mom or you will tell her .if you want to know what you mom will do ,tell her like is one of your friends in the trouble you are ,tell her that you will be really concern IF that ever happen to you .and ask her :
mom you will get a divorce if that happen to us ?
that may help you abit .
so sorry honey I wish I can help more ,I'm a mom and I do have a husband ,he already did his share ,but I try to keep my family toguether is all just for my kids ,besides is in the nature of the humans,I don't meet a guy yet trust worth 100% after a year of their marriage .
Good Luck sweety .
embrace life on the best way ,you have your own remember that if mom and dad can't make it work , please don't drag your self down ok .
make the best of your life ok.
best wishes !
2007-02-14 16:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by eagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do in confront your Dad and tell him what you found. Tell him if he does not stop this relationship that you will tell your Mom. Maybe this will help I don't know. But as much as it hurts you must stay true to what you say. You must be willing to go through with it. Do they have a good relationship does your Mom think everything is OK. She will be very hurt so you have to think this through very carefully and remember what is a t stake.
2007-02-14 16:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Telling your mom will likely create the permanent divide between you and your father.
It is not uncommon that a father and his daughter don't get along starting in her teens. It may have to do with the girl wanting to break free from the parents and so forth. I speak for the father only. Many fathers love their little girls and it is very hard on them when their girls grow up and grow apart and don't know how to handle grown up girls. I don't believe fathers will ever hate their daughters, never. Personally, I care less if my wife hates me but I'd be heart broker if my little girl hates me.
2007-02-14 16:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically keep it to yourself, if your mother doesn't know about it yet, I don't think coming from you would be a good idea,specially if you and your dad don't get along.She might not believe you,if you want you can put the camera somewhere she can find it and let her find out on her own.Sometimes it's best when children are not involved with messy adult stuff.If she has her doubts. she will eventually find out what's going on soon enough,just be there for her and give her support. Good luck
2007-02-14 16:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by glorene b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you should do is confront your dad about it.Ask him whats going on and let him know that he has really disappointed you and hurt you.i also believe that your mom has the right to know.make your dad promise that he will tell your mom about it or else you will.if your mom was to find out and know that you knew about it and never told her, shed be really sad because you are her daughter.Dont be aggressive with your dad.just talk to him calmly.
2007-02-14 16:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom, she needs to know, but you better have the proof to back it up since you said that you don't like each other your mom will know that and she might suspect that you are just saying that to get rid of him.
2007-02-14 16:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋