When you cheat with a married man/woman, do you think about the harm you are causing to everyone involved?
2007-02-14 07:56:05 · 15 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most people that cheat with married people, don't feel any guilt at the time they are just having a good time while it last. The only time they feel guilty is when they get caught,but as long as they can continue cheating they will, it's the not getting caught that keeps them from feeling guilty.And even when they do get caught they say their sorry,but then they turn around and do it again, so I don't think they feel that guilty,which they should. Because they don't think about the people that they hurt and the children if they have any.Some of them go home to their regular routine like nothings wrong,and you would think they would feel guilty when they have to look at their husbands or wife's face everyday knowing what they are doing.Personally I couldn't do it, I don't like cheaters anyway so.They think saying that they are sorry makes it all better but it doesn't. They took vows to honor that person, if they couldn't keep them then they should of never gotten married in the first place.
2007-02-14 08:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by glorene b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every decision made comes with consequences, either bad or good.
Affairs happen all of the time.
I think that there is more remorse from the married person than the other person.
In my opinion, "guilt is a wasted emotion", because it's not like you can change what happened, all you can do is try to fix things and learn from your mistake.
2007-02-14 08:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by M.O. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you thought about it while you were doing it, it wouldn't happen. Cheating is a selfish and spur of the moment act. It eventually becomes easier and you rationalize within your own mind and learn to live with it...then you confess or get caught and a miriade of different feelings and distressors come out that you never realized while you were out "doing it" The guilt afterwards lasts...forever.
2007-02-14 08:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tyerant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never go so low to sleep with someone else's husband, it's not right. Sometimes I watch Maury and I just think " wow ". But it's not the lover's fault. They're not the one that made the commitment. It was the husband or the wife who made the commitment and to brake that commitment is messed up. That's why if my husband cheated on me I won't confront the other woman, I would confront him.
2007-02-14 08:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's cool a man is asking this question. my ex cheated on me with a woman. they are now married. and i'm raising our four children. however when i was 19 i had a one night stand with a married man. so was it a case of what goes around comes around? no, it's what happens when you dont respect marraige. i didnt respect that man's marraige, nor did he. and i suffered the consequences for that. as for my ex, he too will suffer the consequences for doing what he did to his family. the fact that his kids love him and miss him is something he will have to deal with when they are older. noone understands what the consequences are when they are in the moment. but when it hits them, then they feel the burn.
2007-02-14 08:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was an "other woman" once. The man left his wife for me. Of course, we are no longer together (as is the story with most of those situations). There is not one single day that goes by that I don't regret that decision. It was the worst thing I ever did.
2007-02-14 08:35:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to know why it is that everyone thinks of the "other"person as the one who is cheating. Wouldn't it be the married person who is cheating. It should be the married one who thinks about what they are doing.
Am I married YES. Do I sleep with other people, YES. Do I cheat on my husband NO. He knows what I do and who I do it with. Do I worry about the wife, not really, it is up to the husband to worry about that. I am there for sexual variety only.
2007-02-14 08:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
So what is missing in that man/woman marriage that makes their spouses cheat on them?
Its the "married" party's fault. So the other person should not feel guilty.
2007-02-14 08:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by RR77 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's some random bloke then no, I guess I wouldn't feel bad (not that that is ok, just being honest), but I cheated with my best friend's husband (three years ago) and I still feel wretched to this day. I ruined a 20 year friendship, not to mention her marriage. Trust me it's just not worth it.
2007-02-14 08:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter if I cheat with a married or a single person? Cheating is cheating.
If I was single, and got involved with a married person - it wouldn't be me "causing" harm, it would be the choice of the person who was married.
2007-02-14 08:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋