When my husband has the kids for his weeks, I have discovered that he will have business trips and leave them at his mother's or with an overnight babysitter at at someone's house. He does not let me know where they are.
Should I know or should I not care because it is his time with them?
2007-02-14 07:46:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sorry but i think you should know where your kids are, even if he is not there, their still ur kids and u have a right to know that they are being taken care of, If he is always away he shouldnt have the kids those days, they should be with you if he is always gone, i would talk to him about it..good luck
2007-02-14 07:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Brooke 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should care...but you really have no say. That being said, I'd mention to him that you know that's happening and if he goes away and doesn't leave them with his mother (nothing wrong with kids being at grandma's) then feel free to bring them back home. To show that you're serious about it, offer him a credit for each day that they stay at your house during his week. He can redeem them at the end of his week or another week.
It's all about compromise, little lady. And in this one, it's a no-brainer. Toss the guy a bone so that your kids know they are wanted and that mom and dad can get along. His job is important and so are the kids...that's the kind of compromise that goes on when you're married and should continue if you're divorced.
2007-02-14 08:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by digdowndeepnseattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you do have the right to know where your kids are..even during his times of placement...
Just because its his time doesnt mean your not still thier mother during those times..and respionsible for them and thier well being..
Contact your attorny..see your county family court commissioner and ask for "right of first refusal"
That means that during his times of placement if he cant care for them due to work or whatever..before they go stay anywhere else he has to give you the chance to have them with you instead of grandma or the babysitter...
the reason for joint placement is to maximise time and relationship with each parent...he isnt maximising his time with the children if hes not there....
2007-02-14 08:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Berge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is his time with the kids, and if he is away on business, and the children are cared for properly, it is not your business. Enjoy your time with them, and allow him his time with the children as well.
2007-02-14 07:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That last line was really dumb. Anyways yes you should know where your kids are!
2007-02-14 07:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
unless the children are in harms way, it is not your conern how he spends his visitation weekends
2007-02-14 08:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds harsh but....when it's his time, it's not your time!
2007-02-14 07:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you already asked this and i already answered.
2007-02-14 07:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋