I have known her for about 2 years. She is the good friend of a friend and I babysit her daughter during the day. I am 30, she is 39. She is total drama. I am a Mom, a wife and I am content with my life. It seems like she is always trying to cause problems or has problems or is just being mean and ugly. There is no use being patient and trying to "kill her with kindness" as my mother would advise. How do I get her outof my life? I have trouble being confrontational, and I watch her daughter- so what do I do to get this to end??
2007-02-14 07:30:38 · 4 answers · asked by Smilingcheek 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I do get paid quite well to watch her daughter, but I am fine with losing the income to get her out of my life- I just don't know how to do that.
2007-02-14 07:53:28 · update #1
The important question is....do you want to continue babysitting her daughter? You may be a really great influence on this child's life, especially if her Mom has so many problems.
A second consideration would be if you are getting paid for babysitting or not. Not that you want to be materialistic about this, but if walking away from her drama and meanness means a loss of needed income, as well as a personal loss for her daughter; that can be an important consideration.
Could your friend, that is the connection for the two of you give you some insight into the situation? You could ask her to help, or give you some ideas on how to approach the situation.
If you are a wife and Mom, you have a full plate of your own; and do not need to be dealing with her drama. The only other choices that I see are for you to confront her, and tell her that you can no longer deal with her drama and meanness.
If you cannot confront her, you are going to have to walk away. It is very difficult for any of us to deal with "toxic" people. When they are not related to us, we really do not have to deal with them; we can choose to walk away.
I am sure that you are affected by this greatly, and you need to make the changes quickly, for your own health and well-being and that of your own family. Best of luck and have a nice Valentines Day.
2007-02-14 07:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that while you are happy to watch her daughter, and will continue to do so, you feel that any relationship outside of the your childcare duties should not be. Tell her that you would prefer to keep your personal life separate from your business. That would be an "easy" way. Or you can just tell her that she has caused problems in your household, or your life, and that you can't allow her to do that anymore. Let her know that you some things she had done in the past upset you and you no longer wish to have a relationship outside of watching her daughter. And if she gives you a problem with that, tell her you can't watch her daughter. Chances are she will really need the childcare and she will reform and leave her bad behavior in the car when she picks up her child. Good luck. That's a tough one.
2007-02-14 15:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ivy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters you should quit watching her daughter. Then for one right there you wont be seeing her so much. I would give her two weeks notice of course. No reason not to be direct and polite at the same time. You know assertive.
Good Luck!
Happy V-Day!!
2007-02-14 15:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else to babysit.
2007-02-14 15:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋