Ok I admit I got to strip clubs a lot. I know it is something that is shunned in our society, but I do get very loney and I want to be close to a female. If I could find dates easily, it wouldn't be something I would do. The fact is I am only 5'4" and getting a date is very rare, many weekends I am alone in my apartment wishing I was with someone, so I usually go to a strip club for companionship. Yes I do enjoy lapdances, but I also pay dancers just to visit with me for 10-15 minutes and pretend to be my date. I once paid a stripper over $200 to hang out with me at the club for an hour. It was slow during a saturday afternoon, so she really didn't have anything else to do. Most strippers are taller than me, but I was fortunate enough once to meet one who was only 4'11 which was a nice change. I usually like to go to the clubs when it is slow and there are not many customers, the strippers are not pressed for time and are willing to waste more time.
2007-02-14 07:09:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Most of the time I think guys who go to strip clubs are suckers because they're paying to see a woman's body. But that's the avg. guy who's just horny. I think that you're in another category you do it for companionship and to just be in the presence of beautiful women.
I think that it's not your height that prevents you from having a date or a relationship, I think it's your self-esteem level. I have dated plenty of short guy who are confident. Of course there are lots of women who prefer a tall man, but I think what it boils down to for most women is being with a guy who feels good about himself because it's attractive and it makes you want to be around that person. Another great trait is being able to make a woman laugh.
So I think if you like your life as is, keep going to the strip clubs, but if you'd like to save your money and be able to have a real meaningful relationship with a woman who doesn't have to be paid in order to be around you then stop going to the clubs. It also is probably bringing you down even more because you know these girls don't really like you for you, only your money.
I suggest taking some time out to love yourself if it takes reading a self help book, or taking a retreat, or becoming spirtual, do what you have to do. Because if you don't think the world of yourself how do you expect others to? You teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself. After you start loving yourself you're going to start attracting people into your life who love you back.
2007-02-14 07:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a high opinion of strip clubs, but I think just about every guy I know has been at least once. The way I see it, boys will be boys.
It seems to me that the more time you spend with strippers and in clubs, the less likely you are to find a date. Get involved in some other activity you like, then you'll meet girls. But maybe you really don't want to have a relationship.
2007-02-14 07:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Oh, Bama! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, buddy, but your being 5'4" has nothing to do with being able to get dates...I know plenty of men who are that height, or less, and are very popular. Look inside and figure out what the problem is...it would seem that it is you that is prejudiced against short people, not others. AND there is a world of women out there who are 5' or so, they all do not marry 6'6" guys. It is what is inside your head that makes the man, not the height. Sure, tall guys have advantages, but short guys do too. Instead of spending..wasting your money in a strip club, spend it on a shrink and get to the bottom of your little problem. Napolean conquered the world, and he was 5' even! And, if you make lots of money, no one is going to ask you about the height of your mate....many women are taller than their husbands, and the couples do just fine...what really is the problem here? I strongly suggest you find out as soon as possible, for it is NOT strip clubs, that is for sure.
2007-02-14 07:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, hanging out at a strip club, I really don't think you will meet anyone!! Instead of going to a strip club, if you like being around a crowd...why not go to a club or bar?? You will find many more single girls there than at a strip club, and you will probably save a ton of money!!
Good luck!!
2007-02-14 07:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is ok for a guy whethere he has a g/f, b/f, wife whatever. I know some girls who strip and they say they will never go home with any of the guys that go to the club. And even if i didnt know that what is the big deal. They are coming home to you so why do you care if they were looking at other girls they do it on the street no different.
2007-02-14 08:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not sound as lecherous as most men that attend strip clubs. Hey, if I were single I would give you a chance because I like short guys. My husband is 5'5" and I am 5'9".
He used to visit strip clubs and I do not hold it against him. One reason strip clubs are bad is because of violence and rape caused by some of the men that visit the place.
As long as you are not abusive and when you find the right girl you quit there should be no problem.
2007-02-14 07:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jen of Eve 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I found out my bro or dad were going to strip clubs on a regular basis, I'd be really disappointed. I think strip clubs are degrading to the women who work there, and to women in general. I'm lonely most weekends, too, but I don't go to strip clubs.
The problem is that it's just a really temporary fix--it won't fix the problem long-term, or lead to really good relationships for you. It sounds like these strip clubs aren't a very good fit for what you're looking for, if you really are looking for a relationship (not just sex or a turn-on). Why not try speed dating or blind dates instead? It sounds like you feel comfortable talking to women you've just met, so that's good. And don't feel like the 5'4" thing has to hold you back: in hs, I knew a guy who was about that height, and he was really hot. But part of what made him hot was his confidence--he didn't apologize to anyone for his height. There's a lot of short girls out there (I know a bunch of those, too) who would love to date/be with a guy who doesn't tower above them. Not to make this dirty or all about sex, but I've never liked the thought of being with someone who towered above me because I think our bodies wouldn't fit together as well in bed.
And don't think just "short" girls will be attracted to you--not all girls want a guy who's taller than they are! Why not look for ways to meet women who can be with you every weekend, not just every now and then? Plus, those women will want to be with you just because they think you're great, not because you're paying them. You're worth more than settling for your present situation!
2007-02-14 07:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by kacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only time i think strip clubs are an issue is when your in a relationship an depnding on how the girl feels. ive been to strip[ clubs many times with a boyfriend... but if he went all the time without me an i didnt like going i would probibly not be with him... as far as you just because you are 5'4 doesnt mean anything you should try those online dateing sites im sure many lonely shorter girls would like to go on a date
2007-02-14 07:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by peeps you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do meet a girl, never mention this part of your life to her because girls do not like it when guys go to strip clubs and even if you say you won't go anymore, girls may still wonder where it is you are on a Saturday afternoon.
Have you tried internet dating sites? A few friends of mine are on there and have had some success.
2007-02-14 07:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..Obviously, its wrong. If you want the truth of the matter, most girl lose all respect for guys who go to strip clubs.. In a way, I can definitely understand why you go, and where you're comin' from..But, that still doesn't justfy it..
I'm sure there's a girl out there for you, no matter how tall she may be..and she'll love you too:] Not just strip for you..
Don't give up!:]
2007-02-14 07:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋