I love my husband more than anything in the world and we have a wonderful life and family. Several years ago I opened up to him and confessed that I am bisexual. He told me that he understood because his sister was bisexual also. I have always loved my sister-in-law and we've always been close even before I dated my husband. My husband said that he could see her and I being together on occassions and gave me permission to persue it if it ever came up between her and I, which happened. He loves me for who I am and I am totally committed to him. My question is how do I explain to my husband that when I'm with my sister-in-law the feelings are so intense? When I reach climax being with her it's earth shattering, much more intense than when I'm with my husband. I would never say anything to hurt his feelings because he is a wonderful man and I love him so much.
2007-02-14 07:06:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why tell him anything? C'mon, are you serious? It has nothing to do with your sexual orientation - but it's simple courtesy to not tell your partner that you have had more "earth-shattering" sex with someone else. You just don't say these things, out of sheer respect for your mate. If you feel you can't stay with your husband, then let him know that, and pursue other people; but you still don't need to disclose that sex was better elsewhere.
2007-02-14 07:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am also married & I also like to be with the same sex. Why do you have to tell him that the feelings are so intense? Do you really think that is something that he would want to know? I know that you love him & are committed to him (based on what you say), but dont you think telling him something like that may "ruin" something between you and him? Have you considered maybe involving a woman that you could both do? That is what we do...actually, right now, we have a live in girlfriend. But it is still something that we can share together & involve each other & what not. I would just think about what & why you'd be telling him this stuff & may reconsider.
2007-02-14 15:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by leashell 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, even though your husband gave you permission, you shouldn't have gotten yourself mixed up with his sister. It's only going to cause trouble. You should have known that over time one sex life would overshadow the other. You should stop being involved with his sister before you ruin your marriage. Men get very jealous and soon he will sense that he is not satisfying you the way she does....
2007-02-14 15:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mocha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I will tell you something from experience in that department…
Sit down and really think about it do you feel for your sister-in-law more than your hub?
If you do let him know and just stop this relationship with him… but if you have the power and what you have with his sister is just sex and no feeling inside just drop her it is not worth loosing a family just for wonderful sex … you could work with your hub to get each others needs fulfilled the right way.
2007-02-14 15:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Just ME 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Somethings and some details you shoukld definetely KEEP out of the conversation all together. If he gave you permission to to do it- fine- but Im sure he doesnt want every blow by blow description of the night. That could cause alot of hurt and really begin to mess up this relationship.
2007-02-14 15:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him, and from a man's perspective, we can be cool with the bi-thing until we become aware that we're no longer doing the job. Then it could be intimidating. He gave you permission, and what you do with your sister in law is you business. Leave it at that.
2007-02-14 15:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by mixedup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and sorry I can't help you. Why on earth would you sleep with your husbands sister whether he gave you permission or not?? That is just gross!!!
ps Why do you feel you have to tell him it is better with his sister?
2007-02-14 15:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is OK with you and her being together, I suggest you do not speak of anything that will cause him to feel that he is not as good sexually as her. Your husband is very understanding and it's best not to tell tales out of school, if you know what I mean.
2007-02-14 15:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He probably already knows this but why rub his nose in the fact. Enjoy the situation and leave well enough alone.
2007-02-14 16:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have NEVER told him this after the marriage. You should have told him this before the marriage. It is apparent that you both have issues. He should have never consented to you sleeping with her in the first place but since he did it is his fault. Leave him for her.
2007-02-14 15:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋