So my boyfriend and I have been dating for some 6 months and everything used to be PERFECT! like there were NO flaws WHAT SO EVERR. and like now.. its like anything i say to him is a big deal.. like he always gives me an excuse of why i shouldnt talk about whatever i am talking about. He never acts like this when we hangout.. only on the phone. And i told him.. "Just imagine saying that to my face..cause you wouldnt.." and hes always telling me "well you should know me well enough by now to know that I am joking" and when he is "joking" he says veryy disrespectful things. I always try to give him a taste of his own medicine.. but just keeps the "joke" going..
What should i do?
2007-02-14 07:01:42 · 27 answers · asked by ♥DANyELLE. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For some reason your bf is not being nice to you at all. If within six months of dating he is acting the way you do not like, I'd say evaluate all very well , put things on a scale, what are the positives and negatives and what weights out more for you. Should you leave him now? If the scale tells you "things arent getting better and im loosing a lot" I would say get out of the relationship now. Before it gets messier. Or he hurts you more.
AND NEVER think of marrying someone who is already making you doubt about him, and making you feel bad.
People do notchange unless a miracle happens. We tend to idealize our bf and think that we can change them if theres something we doont like. the facts are bf dont change and things can and do get worse after marriage or longer dating.
Men are very different with their peers and friends even infront of their wives, gf's. It s irritating i know. I say the same thing to my husband who after 24 yrs of marriage still behaves differently with his peers than when he is alone with me.
It bugs me. ANd it has not changed.
Something have changed but men are men adn they have a higher chance of keeping things very separate from their friends (things like emotional stuff).
however a good man would never insult you infront of his friends, but it can happen. my husband is a good man on a lot of things, but even today there are times when I cant believe how he behaves infront of others and how he can talk to me then. Except I do not stay quiet about it. If I am being disrespected infront of whoever by him, I do not put up with it and do tell him "what is that for" must you treat me or say that coz you are with friends? That always shuts him up and apologises to me.
YOu know your situation better than anybody but it sounds like you may are not happy with the way he is behaving and behavior can and is also genetic aside influenced by environement. So consider it well and either end it or talk to him, if he doesnt respond, move on and leave him behind.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 07:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by linnea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to just sit him down if you really care about the relationship. Explain the situation in person and tell him that you feel he is being extremely disrespectful and hurtful whenever he says things like that. If you really have to, give him an ultimatum. You deserve to be treated with the most respect possible. You also deserve to be loved. If he doesn't do that for you, perhaps it's time to move on ? Follow your heart.
2007-02-14 15:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by dazzle713 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that revenge would be the best things to do in that situation, maybe just getting out of the relationship because he is disrespecting you, you dont want someone who is alwaays being like that...you want someone who cares for you all the time, and doesnt change the way he feels and talk to you
2007-02-14 15:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by ImLost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is usually a waste of your time, and only brings you down to their level. People who act that way are building Bad Karma, and they will get their payback whether you do it or not. If he's being that much of a dic*head, you may need to dump him and find a more friendly boyfriend.
2007-02-14 15:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the local pharmacy and pick up a bottle of witty comeback pills.They will cost you about 20 bucks for 100,but they are well worth it.
2007-02-14 15:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by james i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk to him on the phone anymore. I don't know if all guys are like me, but I hate talking on the phone. Just talk to him in person, and when he's not around, leave him alone.
2007-02-14 15:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by derelicthypotheses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him, and tell him several times that you consider that something disrespectful.....but on the other hand, it is a minor thing, do not make to serious..
2007-02-14 15:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Mark N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget revenge. Tell him to take a hike and find someone that treats you with a little more respect than that.
2007-02-14 15:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Cranky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your best revenge would be to leave him because he obviously have isuues today its over the phone tommorow it will be in front of friends that he will be disrespecting you. I say to nip it in the bud it will only go down hill from there.
2007-02-14 15:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mrspaul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are - but this sounds extremely childish. If you were an adult you wouldn't have time for revenge. Just dump him if he's such a pain.
Lis
2007-02-14 15:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by latinalisette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋