Too nice about sex?

Question

I am a happily married woman (for 10yrs) to a great man, I am just curious to know if our sex life is the norm. We usually have it once a day or everyother day, but my friends say they only do it with their husbands once every 2 weeks! I admit sometimes I'm not 'into' it and do it anyway because marriage is a give and take (and yes he returns the favor if the situation is reversed). But my friends put there husbands off if they can. What are your thoughts??

to clarify it for some who have confused what I meant, I am not saying I don't like it or that he doesn't respect my wants. We are very happy. And still horny. Just wanted to know if my friends are the average couple out there or we were.

Answer 1

You are doing great, the others have problems

Answer 2

I think it's all talk on your friends side. My friends use to say I was a nymphomaniac and made them look like prudes because my husband and I had a healthy active sex life and they too said they put it off 2 sometimes 3 weeks at a time. But when all couples got together and anything was brought up on the personal side of the bedroom it was a totally different story...like he would jokingly say well there goes my loving tonight and she'd say you had enough this week to last you through the rest of the month anyway, and he would wink and say we'll see about that, and everyone would laugh. So what I gathered is these women just thought it was a longer period that they went without doing anything.

Answer 3

If you are having sex that often after 10 years of marriage, your relationship with your husband must be awesome. Consider yourself lucky and IMO you both are doing the right thing by not denying each other.

One other note, you and your husband must find each other really attractive to have such a satisfying sex life that makes you want to do it with "each other" so often. Many people tend to take physical attraction for granted after a while and forget how much of a factor it was when dating. Sex life suffers as a result and the relationship can sour or lack of fulfillment can lead to temptations to cheat.

I say keep doing what you are doing!

Answer 4

I think you have a great marriage if you have sex everyday or even every other day after 10 years. Your friends are just jealous that you still have desire for each other. They would like to be in your situation, but they are at the point where they are either bored or unattracted to their spouse. Keep doing what you are doing. You should tell your jealous friends that they need to spice up their sex lives. Maybe costumes or role playing.

Answer 5

Kasa, I agree with your friends. My wife and I have been married over 10 years, and we usually only have sex once every 2 weeks. Usually, she is too tired during the week and during the weekends we are usually busy with the kids. I, on the other hand, could have do it every day.

Your husband is a very lucky man.

Answer 6

you are definantly doing good. i feel bad for those people who have sex only once or twice a week, why. as long as you two are living you lives to the fullest. and if you are not into it sometimes try other things like blow jods hand jobs spice it up. if you are not into it there are ways to get him off fast and get it over with or just find new ways to get ur self hot. im glad you know marrage is a give and take but it sounds like you are doing good just dont fall into the slup that other people allow there relationships to fall into. when the sex dies the relationship dies which is why so many people are married and unhappy. keep going girl u got it.

Answer 7

There is no such thing as too nice giving your husband sex. Why is it that women make it seem like a chore? You must have liked it at one point in time with him right? If anything you should be more creative and looking for more ways to do it. If its so terrible why not just let your husband tie you up, finish what he needs and then roll over and go to sleep till the next time he needs to get off? If only women could keep up their sex drive as long as they claim to, I guess the real question is does he not do it for you anymore? Maybe you should talk him into tying you up, maybe that would do it for you???

Answer 8

Like you said marriage is a give and take relationship and you want to make your husband happy. For your friend to put their husband off is ridiculous. Me myself anytime my man is ready for action i am up for it. Even when i am not in the mood he makes it worth it. And that how any relationship should be. So be there for your man and he will be there for you. Look at it this way you guys have done something right to last ten years.

Answer 9

Hey Kasa! Every marriage and every sexual relationship is different. Your level of sexual activity is right for you. You are one of the few people who view sex as an activity of mutual participation that must meet certain exigencies.

Many women fall into the trap of living the social romantically inclined fallacies that conditioning imposes on them. They feel that sex is a chore. They view men as satyrs. They don't enjoy it even if they know they like it.

You have a healthy outlook on sex and marriage. Kudos to you!

Happy Valentine's Day to you and your husband!

Answer 10

Most couples have sex daily when they are newlyweds but it fads over time. People get busy with work, kids, etc taht it limits the time they have the energy to do it. I wouldn't do it daily like that cause then it becomes to routine and boring. I say space it out and liven it up some and both of you will always look forward to the next time

Answer 11

There are times when we have sex daily, then times when it is not as frequent. It just depends on what is going on, how busy/tired we both are. Aside from what actually does happen, we both love it when it does.

Just go with whatever works for you two.
So what if your friends are not as frequently sexually active. They are the ones missing out, there is nothing wrong with you. Just be yourself, you certianly don't need to try and be like anyone else when it comes to sex drive.