MY fiancee and i are having serious problems and I have been staying with friends for 11 days. I realize we have both made mistakes and said things in anger we did not mean. He says he loves me and I know without a doubt I love him. we have been together five years and our wedding was supposed to be may 1st. I realize i was wrong and he doesn't seem to care. Is it worth fighting for. Just a stupid fight no cheating
2007-02-14 06:54:51 · 17 answers · asked by suckowsgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THEY ALWAYZ TELL ME IF IT WUZ MEANT TO BE IT WILL BE NO MATTER WHAT, BUT DONT FIGHT OK JUSS WALK AWAY
2007-02-14 07:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by DI'MARIO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out if this is meant to be, if he is the man for you and a marriage is truly what both of you want. You claim he loves you and "the wedding was supposed to be May 1st, yet he doesn't' seem to care" Not care about what? If the wedding takes place or not, it's all the same to him?
Sort out your feelings and your direction, if it's just a fight then your moving out is a bit extreme. There are obviously other issues that are not working out for either of you.
It's vital to resolve all your problems before you tie the knot, otherwise you will end up in divorce court.
2007-02-14 07:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in love and she is in love, there is no need to fight. Sometimes a fight is an excuse for a man or a woman to think a little bit more about marriage. Please don't push things. Call him to see if he is OK but don't force him. I think he will come to his senses really soon. If he doesn't cheat on him. But don't tell him until he finally says "goodbye". It will hurt him more! Don't lie about it and then try to find some other man after you break up! It doesn't count as cheating and you won't be able to do it because of the bad psychological you 'll have. But remember it's a sin!
2007-02-14 07:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by filip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a little stupid fight someone leaves for a few hours or maybe even the night if the one that leaves is hot enough. When you start talking days and weeks then something is much more serious than just a little stupid fight.Think of it this way your love is not what's in question but your compatibility. If your personalities are clashing now that's something that will never change.
2007-02-14 07:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by littlemama_rules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to sit down together and discuss the fighting issues. After you are married it will be to late. When you get married there are so many other things that will get in the way and cause arguments so if you are having trouble now chances are it will get worse. Talk it out and see if both of you are still considering a future together. If so then both of you need to work on your problems now. After marriage the little things can become really big things and it makes it harder to work through.
2007-02-14 07:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is all about communication, sacrifices from both parties and the ability to forgive and forget (don't sweat the small stuff). You shouldn't have to fight for love, it should be as natural as breathing..we all go through a time when we have a cold and it's hard to breath, just like love, you deal with it...those that face drowning or choking are like the really rough patches in a marriage or relationship, to give up and surrender in water or choking you die, to give up a love it will die also.
2007-02-14 07:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds like this is worth it. As long as he is a good man and he hasn't hurt you seriously, he probably wants to work it out just as bad as you do. Any argument or fight can be settled if both people will lay aside their pride. Just apologize and tell eachother how you feel. I once heard someone say that there are 9 words that will keep any couple together forever......I'm so sorry, I was wrong, please forgive me.
2007-02-14 07:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once cheat always a cheat. To make it up do everything in ur power. Even if you have to fight for the one you love. The reason why i say that is because love is the thing that drive you crazy. God bless.
2007-02-14 07:02:18 · answer #8 · answered by marlon G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say hold off on the wedding because if you had to leave, the same thing would happen if you had a serious fall out if you were already married.
2007-02-14 07:06:38 · answer #9 · answered by TheOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! If you love each other, and there is no cheating, than ask yourself one question. Can you see yourself with the same guy for the rest of your life? If so, definitely fight for it. My wife and I had troubles after my son was born. She actually told me she had feelings for another guy. I told her to choose which she wanted for the rest of her life, our family, or some fling with a jerk. Let him know that its all or nothing. If it's worth it to you, fight for it.
2007-02-14 07:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by detroit_tat2man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is worth fighting for providing the love between you both is completely genuine.
2007-02-14 07:01:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋