please help i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years im only 20 and have a 17mth old son with him he has cheated 3 times and stupid me forgave him, we recently broke up as he dosent make me happy and i cant trust him any more, i have met a bloke who treats me really well and makes me so happy but i feel uncomfortable as my ex is being really loving again, he has done this before and ive fallen 4 it and then hes back 2 his old ways,
please help
2007-02-14 06:50:09 · 5 answers · asked by chels 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OH MY GOD !! Don't go back. You'll keep getting hurt.
He's obviously young and immature and all he cares about is himself.
You have a son now, don't put yourself or him through that kind of turmoil.
Like you said, he cheated before and you forgave him.
He knows now that he can get away with anything with you, that's jackpot for him. He doesn't want to lose that kind of control.
Run, don't walk from that. You deserve so much better and this new guy so far seems good to you.
If you blow it with this "new guy" to go back to "cheating guy", then you'll regret it.
2007-02-14 08:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by M.O. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ball is in your court now..if it were me. I'd go with time alone from men. The new guy is a friend now i presume, and so you let him know that you need to move on and get stronger because this man , the father to your child, is not the one for you and that you realize it now. You realize it but it is hard to actually SAY it out loud . You know deep down that you deserve better in a relationship...so time is a healer. When you feel ready again, you get back in the saddle again. They say it takes a good year of being apart to trully being on the road to healing. I'm into 10 months now being apart from my Ex. the divorce is just around the corner for me. I welcome it with open arms. It signals the end of another chapter in the life of GOOD GIRL. I wish you the best and remember , your child comes first , no matter what. Sometimes we get lost in all of that, but yes, they come first .
2007-02-14 15:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Good Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you obviously know that your ex will go back to his old ways. He just wants the satisfaction of knowing you will always be there when he needs u, and if your happy with someone else it messes up his plan to keep you on the side. You should stay with what makes you happy. Dont fall for your ex's tricks anymore.
2007-02-14 14:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you know the answer but are afraid to try something new. You have a routine - a depressing one - but a routine none the less. You need to break it. The old fella is a loser, you need to cut him out of your life as a romantic possibility. Because you have a child, he will still be in your life, but you need to make it clear to him that you are not interested.
You deserve someone who will treat you right.
2007-02-14 14:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know everything about ur ex still u are confused.There is no reason to get confused.Move forward in life.U have given ur ex many chances but all in vain.Now try giving the other just a single chance.Who knows he is ur Mr. Right.Good luck
2007-02-14 14:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋