I already have three children teenageers the youngest. I have been divorced and met the man of my life recently.. He has no kids of his own and would do anything to have a child. Am I crazy to be considering another child in my early 40s.
2007-02-14 06:43:03 · 17 answers · asked by zaira P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope ... not too old at all. Children bring such joy to our lives - it is never too late. Congrats on meeting the man in your life and good luck on adding to your family!
2007-02-14 06:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
With 3 teenagers....probably. I have 2 of them, and the last thing I want is another baby. But, you're the only 1 who can make that decision. But you know what it involves, think carefully are you going to be wanting to do what you're doing with your children RIGHT NOW in another 15years??? If you can honestly answer yes, then go for it, I'm sure another child will bless your life enormously, and you'll probably be a better parent as well. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.
2007-02-14 14:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother was 42 when she had my younger brother...he is 17 years younger thant I...all the other siblings and myself were all looking to bail home just after he was born...so he said oince, "even though I know all of you (4 of us) are my brothers and sister...I felt like I grew up an only child. Yet the young lady I am seeing is younger than I, she has a child, I have a son, and she would definately have a child with me between us....
Women are having children older these days as men are also...and getting married older thant the last 20 years...talk to your doctor to see if he thinks it would be ok...but as far as the man ios concerned...I am glad I waited until I was older to have a child....and I was older than my then wife. My mother told me I was going to have a problem having a child at that age,,,, I am glad...I actually look forward to everyday with him....I have a young heart...and me son makes it stay that way....being more mature...having a child...can work for you...or against you...so wahts new.
2007-02-14 14:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by RealEYES 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not crazy, but you should consult with your doctor first. You know that after 35 there are many health risks to you and your unborn baby, just be careful, and you know if you can't or decide not to the two of you can always adopt. Have you considered having someone close to you carry the baby for you? You should ask around if it is something you are seriously considering!
2007-02-14 14:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by tlimsisnw7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too old, personally. Some will disagree.
You only met this guy "recently" and you are considering having a baby with him at 40 +? You finally have your kids as teenagers - you want to start all over again for some guy you barely know?
Are you nuts????
2007-02-14 14:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Others do it all the time. Talk to your doctor about the increased risk, etc as there are things to consider about this issue once you pass age 40.
2007-02-14 14:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your over-all health. There's a great risk with each year that passes however if you eat right and take really good care of yourself then 40 is really nothing more than a number.....good luck
2007-02-14 14:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by Grandfather Oak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a little bit because you are going to have to deal with another teen when you are in your 50's! But if you are really serious about this guy then you should do it. Because it is really hard when one of you wants a child and the other doesn't.
2007-02-14 14:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kinka 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, your crazy.
And screw what society has been doing lately, waiting longer and longer to have kids......over 35 is just playing with fire...the risks of complications and birth defects goes up with age.
Sorry, but its true. If you and your man are for real, you don't need kids together to cement the deal.
2007-02-14 14:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your are not crazy,,,,if you are healthy and want and can well raise another child...and your new hubby wants the same thing,,then you should if you want to!!!!And enjoy!!!!
2007-02-14 15:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by sooohappy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋