My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months but we already know it is serious. We tell each other constantly and all day long that we love it each other and want to spend the rest of our lives together. I can't help but wonder if I should bring up the subject of marriage??? We are moving into a house together and everything is in both of names except our checking accounts. We still have those separate. I have been divorced now for 3 years and so has he. I really don't know what to do. Please help.
2007-02-14 06:33:55 · 16 answers · asked by chellebeth75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you must wait for him to bring it up,
If he wants to get married he will ask you.
8 months isn't long enough to be together before talking about marraige,
Trust me I am speaking from experience
2007-02-14 06:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, where do you stand on marriage? If you need marriage (eventually even if its not now) or marriage is important to you, you should make that clear to him. If he is totally against marriage but you know you will want to get married some day, then moving in a bad idea.
You've only been together for 8 months, so it's really too early to considering getting married. But the two of you should know, in general, how you both feel about marriage in general, about committment in general. I know couples who have been together for decades and never got married, which they are perfectly fine with. But other people definitely want the ring eventually so make sure you are clear about what you expect, etc.
2007-02-14 06:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would say NO. But you are already moving in together and have combined everything into both your names. The wisest course of action would have been to have brought up marriage BEFORE moving in together. Sometime soon, you two need to sit down and talk about what your plans are for the future. Your rationale should be that you can't just live together in limbo forever and you need some sort of timeframe and definate plan.
2007-02-14 06:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right, do it. However, the fact that you tell each other "constantly and all day long" that you love each other, could just be a sign of insecurity. It definitely wouldn't hurt to know where he stands on getting married (again) before you actually move in together.
2007-02-14 06:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. It sounds like you have so many things in both names anyway. A piece of advice, don't get a joint checking account until after the "I do." I had a friend who was cleaned out over $30,000 on a joint account he had with his girlfriend and then she split. I'm not saying this will happen to you, but it is something to think about especially if there is money involved.
2007-02-14 06:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you buying the house together??? If you aren't, then I would say give it a couple of months living together before you bring up marriage.
2007-02-14 06:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ruth M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are moving into a home that is jointly owned by both of you. Marriage will offer a level of protection with jointly held assets, if you relationship ever sours. If your relationship continues to grow, then so would the marriage.
2007-02-14 06:46:50 · answer #7 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited a year and a half to bring up marriage to my man but you should do what ever feels right for the two of you.
2007-02-14 06:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up. It sort of ruins it once you talk about it - because it's not as big a surprise to you anymore. it's only been 8 months, I'd wait at least a year before you bring it up.
2007-02-14 06:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Mikala M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't move into a house together until you are married. You are asking for trouble.
Probably too late for that though.
2007-02-14 06:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋