Im a girl who in 6 grade im 12 and i have some problems. This is something that worry me for 2 days. I had done something rilly bad i took $20 from my moms purse so i could buy something at the store with my friends. i didnt spend it all so when i get home i hid it in my sister room cos my mom know we spend our allowance already. She was flipping out looking for it and she ask me and i say i didnt do it so when she check my lil sisters room she found it and Julie got a really bad spanking from her. I felt bad for my sister but i was scared 2 tell the truth so i didnt say anything. now i feel bad and i told my best friend and we prayed and she think i should tell but im still scared my mom would kill me and she be so mad!! I feel bad though what should i do???? I know it be better to tell but i dont want to get punished either!! What would i even say 2 her?? help please!!!!!!
2007-02-14 06:27:15 · 25 answers · asked by mandaluvsjc 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i know i should tell im just worried at how upset she be at me she trust me and it gonna be hard 2 tell her! and i worrie shed prolly spank me like she did Julie to. it so hard know how to tell her!
2007-02-14 06:38:12 · update #1
Yikes!! First of all, you are a wonderful young lady!! You need to know that what you did was a bad thing, but it doesn't make you a BAD PERSON!!
Yes, tell your mother, and take your punishment...you will earn her love and trust with your honesty. If you are very scared to tell her yourself, bring an adult in to help you....dad? grandmom? neighbor???? Someone will be able to help you figure out how to talk to her.
I'm proud of you.....
Also, you'll have to think of a way to make it up to your sister....maybe do her chores for a week??
2007-02-14 06:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes, you need to tell her. I know that it seems like a dumb idea, but in the end it is the only thing to do. Go up to your mom, and just tell her the truth. Tell her that you stole the money, and that you hid it in your sisters room. Tell her everything. Remember to say sorry a lot. It really works. If you can trust your sister not to tell your mom, tell her first. Say sorry to her, and tell her the whole thing. Give your sister a toy or something, make sure she knows just how sorry you are.
When your mom tells you to say sorry to your sister, make sure she tells your mom that you already told her, and said sorry.
You will get a consequence, you may get grounded, or even spanked yourself (I don't know if they spank you) but it will be worth it. You mom will trust you more, and you will trust yourself more. It's good that you understand that what you did is wrong. Just make sure you don't ever do it again. Good luck.
Keifer
2007-02-15 09:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by keiferalbin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell. You'll probably get in trouble, but your mom will be glad you told the truth. She might withold your allowance for a couple months, and your sister probably already knows you did it (she knows she didn't and someone did). You'll feel a lot better and you can be forgiven by your mother.
Get her alone, when she's in a pretty good mood, and tell her the truth. Ask for forgiveness and don't complain at any punishments she'll give you. You'll need to tell your sister you're sorry too.
2007-02-14 14:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go apologize to your sister, then go and tell your mom. Honesty is the best policy. If she can't trust you now, then she may not trust you in the future. Also, you need to remember, your mom may have had something planned for that $20.......like food or some kind of bill that needed to get paid. You need to think of that first. Also, just remember, it's not that your mom enjoys punishing the kids, or spanking them.....but it really does hurt them when you misbehave. You'll see when you get older. Now is the time to get really tight with your mom. She was young once, and has experience as a teenager.......so if you need to talk to her.....then don't hesitate. Think about all of this......have a good day and best of luck to you.
2007-02-14 14:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Start out by telling your mother that you made a mistake and you would like to confess. Ask her to listen before she gets upset with you. She will. Tell her, "mom, I took $20 from your purse. I knew that is was wrong and didn't want to get into trouble so then I lied and said I didn't do it. I'm sorry and I know that you have taught me better than this. I understand that my behavior is unacceptable, what can I do to make it up to you? And to Julie? You taught me that it is wrong to lie and wrong to steal, and I am truly sorry for what I have done." If you tell your mother this than yo ushouold be good, if your mom is the type that will freak out on you before you can even get two words in than you may be better off writing it in a letter to her.
2007-02-14 14:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by tlimsisnw7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first leave her a letter ...saying just what you told us....then maybe she will have cooled down by the time you get home from school...take your little sister with you and go to mom and apologies to them both and then tell your mom it will never happen again ( and then make sure it doesn't) Ask how you can earn the money to pay her back and what you can do to earn her trust again....you probably will be punished....but maybe it won't be as bad as you expected if you take this rout...An make sure you do apologize to little sister.... good luck...I know you"ll be OK in the future because you know you did wrong and you want to make it right...your a good girl ...you made a bad choice.....now go write that letter and leave it for mom in the morning...I'll pray for you....
2007-02-14 16:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definetely tell your mom it was you. That showes her you are getting old enough to face the music when something goes wrong. You may have to conferss and u may get a butt spanking but your sister just got one for what YOU did so hmmmmmmmmm You have to face the music and tell your mom and Im sure she will still love you and forgive you. We have all at one time taken a little money from our parents purse when they werent looking. Good luck to u
2007-02-14 15:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi - i am a mom of 4 who are now grown and married. i have had this happen and i can tell you that it is best to tell the truth. once you tell her she will appreciate the fact that you have a conscience and confirm that you will eventually do what is right. just remember within 1 hour after you tell her, it will all be over. if you don't tell, you will carry this misery around with you every day. your mother loves you and will forgive you long before you can forgive yourself. there is a little sister that looks up to you too. what are you teaching her?
2007-02-14 15:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by dee-bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may get punished but it is the right thing to do to tell the truth. you are human, you made a mistake. part of becoming an adult is owning up to and learning from your mistakes. you should apologize to your sister for doing this too. your mom will have more respect for you if you tell the truth. maybe not as much as she would have if you would have told it from the beginning but she will have more for you. i know it is tough but now you know not to do it again so it wasn't all a lost cause. chalk it up as a lesson learned. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-14 14:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am 13 and this as happened to me but it was mt little brother that got the blame .you have to trust me on this the longer you lie the worst it will get and the trust that you and your mom have will go i lied gor 3 weeks and now me and my mom are fine but it toke us month for her to trust me again, i know your scared so was i but you need to be the better perswon and tell the truth i bet you a great person really and this little thing isnt goin to chage you .your mom will understand and if you really feel you cant then talk to some one you trust,they will understand ,remember what ever you have done talking it though with somone will make it fell better
2007-02-14 15:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by hayleyluvinrobert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it and never EVER steal again. It is times like this that we all have been through that shapes the rest of your life. Although you are terrified, owning up to it now will ensure that you won't steal from her again.
PS. It might be best to write her a letter confessing what happened and put it on her pillow once you go to sleep. She might not be so angry when she finds it later on tonight and has to wait until the morning to punish you.
2007-02-14 17:31:11 · answer #11 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋