I am turning 31 this month.... I have been married for 10 years, and have 9 year old twins. I just starting going back to college to earn a degree, and am in my second semester. I just found out that I am pregnant, and everyone acts as though I am making a huge mistake....I don't understand...
2007-02-14 06:15:55 · 43 answers · asked by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HA! Let me tell you something dear one, I am a single mom with FOUR kids, a full time job, and go to school full time. It is your life and there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it. You can do it, I am doing it, and a MILLION other women out there are doing it so the next time someone tells you that you are making a huge mistake, remind them when your beautiful baby is born what they said to you, they are the ones who are making a mistake by treating you that way. WTF is wrong with people? Congratulations by the way and keep your chin up, you can do it!
2007-02-14 06:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously you will be having another child. If you chose to do this, or are happy about having another child, who cares what everyone else thinks. What the other people are talking about is how you will likely be forced to take some time, maybe a semester or two, to have the child. But, it can be done.
My oldest was born right before my last semester of college. I worked almost full time, went to school full time, and also had a newborn. It was tough. There were times I was so tired, I go to work, and my boss would have to tell me I was supposed to be in class. But, I made it through that.
Realistically, plan on taking this fall off from school. If you are, say, 4 weeks into the pregnancy, that put you due in Novemeber? Having a newborn, trying to prepare for finals, term papers, etc may be hard. Or, you could just take one class, maybe two, then it wouldn't be too hard.
Also, and I assume the husband works during the day, there are always evening classes next spring, when the baby is still young. Having another baby will make getting through college a little more difficult, but not impossible.
Remember, those things that don't kill you only make you stronger.
Congrats!!
2007-02-14 06:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A MISTAKE ? I cant see how gods children are a mistake .I'm like you i cant understand what all those people are thinking .I just know that if I felt the same as them I wouldn't have the wonderful children and grand children I have today.
Oh sure I had my hard days but when my children come over and bring the grand kids and they run to me with all there hugs and kisses and great big smiles and say grandpa i mist you so much it brings tears to my eyes and trust me I'm not a person that sheds tears
You know now that I'm older and lived most of my life out I'm so happy i didn't listen to those people because I never see them anymore but I will always have my kids .
God be with you and may you have a wonderful life with your wonderful children .
One more thing I think its a boy . Just my guess i haven't been wrong yet.
2007-02-14 07:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a huge mistake about what? keeping the baby? what are you supposed to do, terminate the pregnancy because you're in school? or do they think it was a mistake to get pregnant in the first place? it's not as if you can go back in time and not get pregnant! or is it that you're staying in school while pregnant? do people think you can go to them and say, " gee, i have something else going on and i want a refund of my tuition cuz everyone else thinks i shouldn't continue my education."? or is it because you already have two kids? do they think you have too much on your plate with going to school, raising a pair of nine year olds, and having a new baby? look, if your marriage is strong, your kids are happy and healthy, your going to school isn't going to put undue stress on you and affect your pregnancy, if you and your husband agree all this is true and you guys have even a half-assed plan for being able to afford all this, screw everyone else. you're a grown-up now, you are the one who has to live your life. tell whoever is giving you so much grief that you would appreciate it more if they expressed concern about your life getting too hectic, if that's what they intend, instead of acting like you're getting ready to make a big mess of everything.
2007-02-14 06:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by zoë's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on both the pregnancy and going back to school. I think that as women we are being underestimated. I recieved alot of criticism too but I just kept telling my self that this is a life decision that I have made not only to better myself but to set and example for my kids. It doesn't matter what I or anyone else thinks about your decisions. What matters is that it is important to you and it is something you can do. It will get rough at times but keep your head held high cause it will all work out in the end. There is no mistake in doing what you feel is right.
2007-02-14 06:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant is not a mistake, its a beautiful thing, Being married for ten years is also a beautiful thing, Going back to school is always a good thing, You're not making mistakes it sounds to me like you are doing just fine go, it going to be challenging but go to school as long as you can, take courses on line. Keep doing what your doing and enjoy the beautiful life that you are going to bring into this world. Let us know how it's going.
2007-02-14 06:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by mojojojo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How could you possibly be making a mistake? It sounds like you have a succesful life and family. What harm is there in bringing in another life to love? You can still continue on with school and your kids are old enough to help you out with the new baby too. I say go for it and good for you.
2007-02-14 06:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Get a life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fabulous example of a woman who can and does live her life, on her own terms.
Your friends will support you unconditionally. People who aren't your friends will judge you and make inappropriate and challenging comments about your life. Being pregnant just gives these people more fodder for their little tiny minds and their big fat mouths.
You decide what is or is not a mistake in your life. Only you. That is what being a female, with rights, in this century is all about.
And, congratulations, on both your degree and your new baby.
2007-02-14 06:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They are probably just concerned. It is hard to go to school and be pregnant. I have been there. It is a lot easier to do part time courses or correspondence or on line course when you are nearing your due date and right after. That way you do not need to leave the house with the new baby in tow. If you husband is there to support you, then I think you should be fine though.
2007-02-14 06:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No child is a mistake. A child is MUCH more rewarding then a degree or a career in my opinion. Who cares what everyone else is thinking. I would never put anyone or anything before my child, whether it was born or not. I would try to continue school although it will be hard, but hey, if you have to put it off a few more years, then that is fine too.
2007-02-14 06:19:22 · answer #10 · answered by Cheryl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋