Why cant i show emotion????

Question

My ex partner commited suicide 4 years ago through hanging.I found her and tryed to help her but it was too late.Now i have learned to move on with my life,but find it very hard to show emotion to anyone.Im like a brick that cant be broken.My ex was evil to me and almost killed me,and i can say that ive got over that,but it's the emotion im finding hard,any surgestions??????

Answer 1

Hypnotherapy would be good for you. Having a therapist hypnotize you and bring out those emotions you've got barracaded behind that brick wall ... I tell it like it is, you've
got to break down the wall completely before you'll be able to show any emotion so it's going to be an all or nothing type of situation, you haven't committed yourself to doing that yet, once you do, you'll be one step closer to feeling again. It's going to be hard and yet it's absolutely necessary. Make the decision now or waste time until it brings itself out in a maybe not so acceptable way. It's all up to you really but it's hidden in your subconscience most likely and you'll need hypnotherapy.

Answer 2

He won't change. I know this story all to well! You just can't make an unemotional person emotional. It's a lost cause on that part. Either accept it or move on. I think he is listening and hears you, he just can't communicate it or change that aspect of himself. You have to really decide if you can put some things you need aside to make it work and if it is worth it. You have to weigh the good against the bad. If you do leave, that will prob get some emotion though...I do understand you're frustration, trust me!!

Answer 3

I think you are still in shock.
That makes you feel... numb? sorta strange, disconnected, like everything's unreal & happening around you but you can't really move or do anything...
I went through that- feeling frozen cos of my experiences, which piled on... & piled on... until, one day, I found myself alone in a field. My 1st emotion was anger! Boy, did it come out! I yelled & screamed, knowing no-one could hear me. I surprised myself! Then I felt human again. Then grief. I realised many years later, I had never let myself grieve! Sounds daft, but it's true. To some degree I still haven't cos I never went for counselling. Perhaps if i had, I wouldn't still feel choked up when something reminds me... of my past?
Your experiences were shocking & traumatic & I believe you are expecting just a little too much of yourself. These things can time to heal. They used to say "it takes 7 years to get over a divorce." So don't be hard on yourself, if you're not Mr. Nice & Easy Going right now. You will feel more human & be able to express usual emotions once your brain has stopped reeling... in horror...

Oh, & by the way, I find your choice of words interesting.
Like "a brick..."
Bricks can be broken / crushed... Perhaps that is what you are afraid of? Your experience has taught you, your emotions are delicate. So you're protecting them. That's perfectly normal too.
Sensible, even!

Just believe, very, very few women are ever going to want to try & hurt you, yeh? Most women are, by nature, compassionate nurturers (not nutters out to take vengeance on men).
So do try to find someone nice to help nurse you back gently, please?

Answer 4

...hi.

showing emotion would please you because it would greatly assist with haveing realized what is occurring within you and as you would attribute to the events in your life. and you have named just a couple but your life is full with experience...unfull with reasons for occurrence. so there is confusion. your mind is preoccupied with knowing and seeking to know what occurs and this is the first and most immediate block to emotional expression.

you don't share emotion because you don't know which emotions to show. you are probably a truth seeking mind. and truth seeking minds with missing pieces to living emotion do not realize which emotions to show.

advice......put the ideas one by one down which are components of the confusion. select one which creates an emotion to you and let it be released. you should see that the ideas which are most clear to you are easiest to respond emotionally to....though you may not find it easy since this "wall" you speak of may have classified them all or most as undesireable or incomprehensible.

it will be necessary to take any ideas which sprout up in your conscious and note them. these will be the ideas which are being called upon for your emotional consideration.

continue with each idea and you should see which ideas are creating the most discomfort or emotional barrier.

but remember something....each idea is your own ... though it may have come to you from someone other and uninvited in your experience. the idea is yet ...your very own now. you must claim it (accept) to disclaim it (release it or separate its value to you/from you.)

good luck...be well

Answer 5

You have been through a lot of trauma. You are afraid to feel anything for fear of getting hurt again in more than one way. Open up your heart and let yourself be happy. It sounds as if you really want someone inyour life. Just remember that people only do to you what you let them do. Also pray. God heals all things.

Answer 6

Let it go. This was just one event in your life. Its hardly likely to happen again.

Answer 7

NEVER show emotion...it will be taken as a sign of weakness and people will use it against you.

Answer 8

I think you would benefit from talking to a therapist or priest.

Answer 9

Seek help, holding it in isn't good it could kill you

Answer 10

Drink a full pint and then maybe you will.