well, today is valentines day and my boyfriend came up to me with a teddy bear & flowers. then he tells me that he got someone else to go pick it out for me. am i wrong for being a little mad? it was really nice of him until he told me that...he should have picked it out himself it would have been more special to me.
2007-02-14 06:08:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Many people want to express their love on this day. Your boyfriend wanted his expression to be the one for you. Many of us are having a hard time trying to figure out what to get for their boyfriend, girlfriend, or the one they love. The teddy bear is cutlie and the flowers express your beauty, that's enough to be happy about. So He needed a little help. Many people don't get anything.
2007-02-14 06:48:46 · answer #1 · answered by Granny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you must know why he had someone else to pick it out for him. Could be he was busy and he cares so much he had someone to pick it up for him, he probably don't know how to shop that well and was afraid you might not like what he picks out so he got a second opinion. Don't be so uptight just appreciate that he did get you something and that you are special to him. There are alot of people who didn't get anything. So be grateful and let it go. At least he was being honest he could have kept it to himself and got all the credit. Besides he is a guy they don't think like we do. Happy Valentine's Day.
2007-02-14 06:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Child of God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong at all!! Valentines is supposed to be about your love and friendship,not how lazy or insecure he was. Tonight tell him you were a little surprised that he had another person pick out your things,but your SURE they were just the warm ups for his real gift!>>a cruise?>>etc. Don't lie or dissemble, your a valuable person and your relationship deserves personal attention. Hopefully he really does care,and is used to having someone else not really care( bad ex etc) so set him straight and make a date for two at the spa for a nice couples massage:)
2007-02-14 06:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by ashlan_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he feels a DORK and knows it, but is clever enough to realise that you are so very special that on such a big day he needed help, he had to get the big guns involved, an expert on selecting gifts for a WOMAN, and yet he was still so insecure because he is in your shadow that he was worried you wouldn't like the choice so plan B stupid tho it is, is to let you know the choice wasn't his!
Don't beat him up over it but help him learn, you'll need to teach this man a lot to turn him into the prince charming you desire!
Lets face it whether we are good or bad you Women make it your life's mission to change us into your puppy dog's and puppets that jump and kiss boots when told! lol
2007-02-14 06:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by keithanthony0169 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold it against him. Guys are guys and they really don't think like we do. I have been married for almost 26 years and I have learned that there are just some things that men don't understand. You are upset that he didn't pick it out himself and he is proud of himself for remembering to send someone to get you something. Next year he will know better than to tell you if he didn't get it himself, but don't let it ruin your day. He thought of you and that's all that matters.
2007-02-14 06:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad.
Why in the world would he say that for? Why would he even admit to that? I understand how you feel. If he would have picked it out and put his time and effort into picking something out for me that he thought I would like, it would be so much more personable and meaningful.
So...ever think about who the guy was who picked out such a nice gift for you? Look into that guy. Hehe.
2007-02-14 06:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I would be a little upset too because I know it probably doesn't feel like it came from his heart...
On the other hand, some guys have problems picking out things for women and feel better if they get someone else to help....
I would just be glad that he got you something cause most men don't even do anything!!!! Just be happy and don't let it get you down.....
2007-02-14 06:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Matt's Wifey 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No you at the on the spot are not incorrect. We had a putting forward in highschool "a buddy with weed is a buddy certainly" appears like that's your buddy's theory to boot in elementary words it would not artwork so nicely when we strengthen up.
2016-11-03 10:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be mad over it, but maybe just let him know what while you love it...it does kind of lessen it that he didn't pick it out himself and that he actually TOLD you... Opportunity for an easy life lesson learned for him...
2007-02-14 06:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're definitely not wrong. I'd be offended too...cuz like, you want the gift from your boyfriend to be from his heart..not the chick or dude who picked it out for him. maybe you should ask him who picked it out? atleest you get to see your boyfriend today): we're on a level 3 snow emergency, and i have to make my cookies again): talk about sad.
2007-02-14 06:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by Schmanders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋