I live in 1 State he lives in another,he doesnt visit or come home we talk on the phone a little I work 53 miles from my home2 support our 2 children and myself,I feel my marriage slipping away I often wonder about moving the children and myself where he is.
2007-02-14 06:06:32 · 10 answers · asked by Barbara B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move there now. Give your notice at work, pack up, and go to your husband. You shouldn't be apart! This is ridiculous! Your marriage is slipping away because of this. Go talk to your boss and yank your kids from school and get to driving! Find work! Who cares if you have to make sacrifices? Would you rather sacrifice your marriage for financial stability? I understand you have kids, but you need to make sacrifices for your husband, your marriage and your kids. I hope you start packing soon!
2007-02-14 06:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...I wouldn't say it is "wrong"...just a personal choice that the two of you made in your marriage. Some people have a long distance relationship and for them it works...It wouldn't work for my husband and I because of choices we made when we were courting about what kind of relationship we wanted and what components it would be made up of.
Having said that, it sounds like the choice you made you are no longer happy/content with so perhaps it would be good to talk with your husband about changing the structure of your marriage. Right now you both have a fairly independent life-If it were me I would think about what benefits, if any, you both are receiving now and what perceived benefits vs losses you would get if you were together.
I have many friends who have a marriage where each pursues their own interests and live in the same house. Some are happy with this, some aren't. And I know some people in a long distance relationship that are very happy with the arrangement-they make it work, they like the separations and the reunions...*smile*
There is no guarantee that living together will bring you what you seek but if you don't change your situation you will never know either. You never said if you have experienced living with him before-has it always been this way?
I think the bottom line is whatever works for you and your husband is the "right choice" for you...*smile*
2007-02-14 06:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's no work in your community and your husband has to go live in another state, then why didn't you move with him?? You aren't really married; this is not a marriage. You don't even talk on the phone much? He doesn't visit? You should just move--whether you move to be with him or not. There are plenty of great places to live in America.
2007-02-14 06:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by lizzgeorge 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the point of being married and having kids if you live away from them? That makes NO sense....You should tell him that you want to move to where he is and see how it goes. Do you think it's possible that he likes it this way? You don't want to uproot you and the kids just to find out that he really doesn't want you there, do you? First talk, find out what he thinks....me personally, I think it's sad and pointless to be married but live in separate states and never visit. I feel sorry for your kids.
2007-02-14 06:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of a situation quite like this. To answer you very honestly, It doesn't sound like a good idea. For a marriage to work you need to trust eachother, and SEE eachother. I know it's probably very hard because of your jobs, but the way I see it, you're faced with a question : Love or Money? To me, my job would never be worth a marriage.
2007-02-14 06:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by leaysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if both of you still love eachother then go back to him for you and the kids....you can find work somewhere, you just may have to settle for something not so great at first, things will improve over time, if not talk to him about moving somewhere else wher both of you can find work in same area...if the marraige is worth saving...do it
2007-02-14 06:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go now as your marriage has alredy slipped you will be only disappointed when you will reach there.
Before you move investigate first or move on with your life dear.
2007-02-14 06:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by blk man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your right you should move to be with your husband you can always find another job but your marrige should come 2nd god first
2007-02-18 03:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why didn't you just move with him in the first place???
2007-02-14 06:11:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!!!!
2007-02-14 06:15:20 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋