in like their late thirties start dating woman?? im worried about the kids being confused. should the children seek someone for emotional support. some kids have 2 homes, one w/ mom and girlfriend, and one w/dad and girlfriend. do you think this effects the childs mental well being????
2007-02-14 05:54:39 · 15 answers · asked by smoovkay 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As long as children are well supported and loved, I don't think it matters what the make-up of their family is. I worry more about kids that witness abusive heterosexual relationships and what that is teaching them -- either that's it's ok to treat someone like dirt, or that it's ok to be treated like dirt. Children who witness relationships based on love, trust, and mutual respect have good models for relationships of their own. I don't think the genders involved matter.
2007-02-14 05:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think living your life worrying about what kids will think is ever a good idea. By the time your kids are 20, they'll have seen it all. How they have been raised will determine their reactions.
If you have sheltered your child and served the little monster's every whim, then the child might be susceptible to mental anguish.
I know plenty of kids who have been raised to be rational and tough. This method turns out to be the best insurance against your kid being mentally molested by future life changes.
If it's not even your kid that you are asking about, then why are you even worried about it? It doesn't take a village, it takes parents who treat kids like kids and neighbors who mind their own business.
2007-02-14 06:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Curt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have their parents in two separate homes with other new parental figures, male or female, is going to to affect a child's well being. Whether it affects in a negative or positive way depends on how the parents interract in the relationship. Are they loving and supportive? Caring and open? Honest and happy? If so, then the child is going to have a positive role model on life and how relationships should be.
If the couple is rude and hateful, suspicious, untrusting, degrading, abusive then that will affect the child negatively. It doesn't matter if the parental figures are homosexual or heterosexual. If the relationship is healthy, the child will be healthy as well.
2007-02-14 06:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids thrive in stable homes where the two people they regard as parents are always there. Whether it's Mom or Dad who leaves to pursue a relationship with another person, either male or female, it breaks up the home just the same.
2007-02-14 06:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people stay in the closet out of fear, and even go into relationships with people they are not attracted to. it sucks that society forces people to hide themselves in this way.
as far as the kids...studies have shown time and again that kids aren't messed up from having gay parents. a child in this situation would be no more messed up than a kid who visits mom and her new boyfriend and dad and his new girlfriend. divorce is hard on kids, sure, but in the end having parents who are honest is better for them.
2007-02-14 06:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by supposed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They get tired. And lazy sometimes. It's kind of like having a roommate who beats you off. Mom and girlfriend is as bad as Dad and girlfriend. Two kids should have two parents who are taking on the difficult balancing act of yin and yang (hey, not one 'dressing up like yin' and one 'dressing up like yang' as is so common in gay relationships). I think that means having a wife and having a husband, not having a girlfriend who 1)gives you sex 2) shares the rent 3) doesn't hate you.
2007-02-17 13:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are trying to conform to societies expectations and views of them. They have been denying who they are.
Being around a lesbian isn't going to effect a child's wellbeing. Coming from a broken home could, but this is the case with divorce for any reason.
2007-02-14 05:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This matter is not just on gays, it happens to straight, too. Single parent family is still good for kids, but not many single parent can do this job good. I don't know much about gay parents, so I can say anything about this. But a healthy family (straight man an straight woman) will be mostly a good environment for kids, based on percentage.
2007-02-14 06:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Henry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why. Yes, it effects the child mentally, it is wrong and disgusting. The parents don't even think or care about the kids when they do stuff like that. They need to go to church and get some morals before they are burning in hell
2007-02-14 05:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Dan M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sex has nothing to do with parenting. Divorce had much more effect on a child's perception of the world than the gender compatability of their parents.
2007-02-14 06:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋