I swear, i don't have many women friends, because I just DON'T TRUST WOMEN ANYMORE!!!!!! At one point I thought I had a lot of girl friends, but then they turned on me, and just started hating me for nothing!!!! Women, why are we so jealous of each other, and in general, just so catty and untrustworthy? What does it solve?
2007-02-14 05:54:27 · 11 answers · asked by Yvette S 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Because women compete with other women over men. Instead of women helping each other. I think it's because of the way men pick dates which is usually by outside appearances. Women don't use looks as the main factor for what attracts her to a man, so men don't have to be competitive with other men in that way.
The only female friends I have now are the same women I've had as friends since childhood. I think it's sad though because I would rather be friends with women, because men don't actually want to be friends with me, they just want to get into my pants so they pretend to be friends with me.
It basically leaves me pretty lonely.
2007-02-14 06:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Quest4questions 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women are pitted against each other in this society constantly. Every time you watch TV, at night what do you see? Scantily clad women! That is a lot of pressure if you are a woman, and not a model. Women are constantly bombarded with images of other more attractive women, and this causes feelings of inferiority and jealousy. Women, cannot take out their anxiety on the cover model of their husbands Sports Illustrated swimsuit Issue, so they take it out on the women around them.
I have also noticed that women seem to bond over tearing other women down. Where I work the women are terrible. They are constantly spreading rumors and talking about other women, the funny thing is that the women that are the worst are the ones who are the most unhappy w/themselves or their lives.
2007-02-14 06:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by frenchie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way and have the same situation. I'm much more comfortable around men. I think women have a more difficult time taking criticism than men, or maybe it's just because it's coming from a women. Men are aware of this too. Maybe it's just that men don't take criticism from women as seriously, because they (in general) think they are "better" than us or just have more lust for us, so then they endure criticism better, because they want us. Women are generally very emotional and take criticism too seriously when it comes from a woman because they have a similiar respect for another woman and probably partly out of fear of lies/gossip/being shunned. Men will fight, but it is generally considered unbecoming of women to fight. Maybe we should fight, like men, to stop gossip. That's how men seem to control it. Or they simply lack the interest in gossip (in general). If someone gossips about me, I will confront them and in front of others. I heard a line from the movie "The Libertine" that says, " I've found there are two reasons why a person doesn't like you. They are either stupid or jealous. The stupid people will like you in five years, the jealous won't ever."
I agree with and really liked what quest4que said.
2007-02-14 06:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by shell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel ya! That is why I was called many mean names because I didn't have any girl-friends. And I am married! I am only friends with guys. I trust them more than women. Especially after the two best friends that I had screwed me over when I met the man that would be my hubby!
I never trusted girls again. Not to mention, men are more fun to be around with anyways. They have a better sense of humor. Women get real offended real fast with jokes that men say around women. That is silly.
2007-02-14 06:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why? Because We Can!! Welcome to the World of Women Friends. I admit, they are not ALL like that, but it only takes a few to make you swear off of them for life, kind of like cheating men!! I'm sorry you are hurt. Remember High School? Well it never ends sometimes!! I would sprinkle Happy Dust and tell you it's all different at some point in your life, but I won't do that!! @8-) Peace. If you ever happen to find a woman who is different and doesn't bite, then treasure her and keep her for life. Friends like that should be kept close to us forever. But they are admittedly rare, Honey. Don't be sad and hurt. Let it slide. Life is hard and so women have to be hard too. It's a contest to be the most desired and you can't fight it. It's our nature. But you can overcome it only in yourself!!! @8-)
2007-02-14 05:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
because we feel we have to be the best and we just dont like girls. Im not sure what it is either i mean i have a ton of guy friends but only a couple of really good girl friends and i trust them with my life. Its just a thing maybe we take everything to seriously?
2007-02-14 05:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by moonestone182 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea. Guys can be more trustworthy at points, but I'm with you on this whole catty thing. Maybe they're always envious of one another and they show it by putting others down.
2007-02-14 06:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that maybe there is still some primal instinct going on here...we need to be top lioness and have our pick of the guys. Why else would we constantly compare/contrast ourselves to other women? It makes perfect sense- jealousy!
2007-02-14 06:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by longleggedfirecracker 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy. We want to be the center of attention of anyone who will notice, and when it doesn't happen, we call attention to ourselves by treating others badly. That sounds so terrible.
It seems that we have to spend time with ourselves and be happy with ourselves before we can be happy with others. Even then it is no guarantee.
2007-02-14 06:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by tuna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men are the same way Lady.Just be yourself and don't worry about being accepted by anyone.Love yourself!
2007-02-14 05:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋