First of all, this is not meant to be a dirty question, so please only give serious answers. With that said, I think I may be broken. I just can't seem to orgasm. I've been with 2 different long-term partners and 2 short-term ones and none of them could do it. I've tried pretty much everything I could think of to do on my own as well and that doesn't work either. Is it possible that I could be broken? Could a doctor or a therapist help with this? I'm all out of ideas and tired of not enjoying sex. Help please!
2007-02-14 05:49:56 · 6 answers · asked by Loki's Mommy 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Oh honey, you are NOT broken!!! I just hate that women are made to feel less feminine if they don't live up to some random sexual ideal.
Putting so much pressure on yourself to have an orgasm will make it nearly impossible for you. You need to take the focus away from pushing yourself to make this goal, and just concentrate on the journey getting there. I know you said you've tried different tactics on your own, but the if only thing on your mind was "Must Orgasm Now!!!" no wonder it was unsuccessful.
Just relax. Take some alone time for yourself. Prepare a bubblebath, light some candles, put on some soft music, do whatever it is that de-stresses you and helps you to relax. Think about what turns you on, really fantasize. Try different ways of pleasuring yourself, different touches, maybe try a vibrator or some other toy. Enjoy the sensations and keep your mind in the moment - don't worry about where you're going, just enjoy getting there. Remember, it is about the pleasure of the JOURNEY, not the destination!
Every woman is different. Some women learn how to orgasm when they are very young; others take a while to learn what they like or to condition their bodies to feel pleasure. Please don't beat up on yourself or overanalyze everything to death. You are just fine, you are completely normal, and you are most certainly not broken!!
2007-02-14 06:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A doctor or sex therapist could help. The best treatment is probably to take matters into your own hands (no pun intended). Experiment with yourself using vibrators and such and most importantly....RELAX! You're probably stressing that it won't happen and it's becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Just concentrate on doing what feels good and not on what the end result will or will not be.
And no, I don't believe that you are broken.
Good luck!
2007-02-14 13:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by strawberrycrush 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!
Damn I live too far That is not fair for you.
You have had 4 partners ??? how old ?? what age range.
How old You??
Don't go assuming something is wrong right off.
You don't mention masturbating.
So I recommend you find an older man (single) a close and intimate friend.(LIKE ME) to discuss your problem with.
if that doesn't work Yea see the Dr but I don't think they know much either IF you have done everything.
2007-02-14 14:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You might want to see your Dr. If you've tried.. oral sex and you still can't orgasm.. Maybe your Dr. can help you. Can you orgasm manually? If so. Then keep trying. Maybe your putting too much pressure on yourself too.
2007-02-14 13:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by xjaz1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try asking a doctor about it or try going to a gynecologist (sorry if I spelled that wrong). You may be right about it being psychological, but if it is, those guys will be able to tell you.
2007-02-14 13:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Meria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uterine fibroids can prevent orgasm.
2007-02-14 14:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋