I'm 30 yrs old with the history of PCOS (Poly cystic ovaries syndrome), me and my boy friend have been together for almost 2 years. I found out yesterday that I am pregnant, if I break this news to the family they will be devastated and probably will not have any contact with me, I don't know for how long. My boy friend is excited about the news and is willing to raise the child with me, but he is not yet divorced, his case is dragging since past 5 yrs and he doesn't know how long it will take. I am happy to know that I'm pregnant but at the same time I have doubts and fear of the family and him not being able to be out of his messy divorce.
Please help.
2007-02-14 05:45:43 · 9 answers · asked by InDilemma 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are blessed with a child. You and your boyfriend love each other, and you both agree on raising the child. You are not too young, this is the perfect age to have a child and perhaps your only chance. Plus, there is no excuse for killing your poor baby. So, for me, really, there is no dilemma. You will have the child with your boyfriend, the divorce will be settled eventually and even without it we are not in the Middle Ages any more, as long as the baby will be recognised by the father, anyway. Your family may discourage you, but trust me, they will be happy grand parents too, just give them time. And let them know about the pregnancy when it is too late to stop it, so that they don't try to persuade you to murder your own child. If you do kill it, I really don't see how your relationship with your boyfriend can continue, this is the fruit of your love, it's keeping you together, you don't want the shadow of a dead child between you.
2007-02-14 05:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the baby, then have the baby. Your baby is what's important. Anything else is extraneous to the situation. You boyfriend would be responsible for child support whether he was willing to participate in raising the child or not. There is no legal excuse to drag a divorce out for 5 years. A judge can grant an end to a marriage and any financial arrangements can be worked out afterwards. Whatever your boyfriend decides to do, make sure you get something in writing. With regard to your family, you are 30 years old. Who cares what your family thinks? You are more than old enough to run your life your way, so tell your family to either respect your decisions or kiss your butt.
2007-02-14 05:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he still living with the wife? If he is this would be a huge problem! I am currently pregnant and unfortunately still married but going through a divorce. My boyfriend does not like this and neither do I but the ex keeps dragging it out. I just wrote a letter to the court to ask for help because he is intentionally dragging it out hoping I will change my mind. This has only been going on for one year, I can't even imagine 5, but if he is not living with the wife and there is no chance for reconsiliation, then congratulations, enjoy your baby together. Thats what I am going to do!
2007-02-14 05:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. if youre fine with living together to raise the baby, then do so. but a 5 year divorce? My brother in laws divorce was messy and it only took between 1 to 1 1/2 years to finalize. if i were you, i'd make sure that he's actually getting divorced. dont stress b/c thats bad for the baby, but your 30, i dont understand why family wouldnt have any contact with you, your old enough to make your own decisions... Good luck and God bless!
2007-02-14 05:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may tell him you're pregnant together with his infant that doesn't propose you'll be with him, he can stay together with his spouse if he so desires whether that's unfair to him and to the little infant which you will shouldn't tell him. He can the two basically provide you infant help for her or him or he would be interior the youngster's existence. don't sense a hundred% in charge it takes 2 human beings to make a infant you ensue to fall in love with one yet another, you probably did no longer intentionally attempt to take him from her or something issues basically ensue. easily from the way she is treating him i don't comprehend how long his marriage to her would have lasted besides a marriage relies on the help of another and that builds up believe without the two a marriage generally crumbles. now may be the time to look out for the final pastime of your infant nonetheless so which you may desire to tell him as quickly as attainable.
2016-10-02 03:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have the baby.
I don't think anyone has ever regretted having children.
If your situation changes before the baby is born, you could always change your mind and give the baby up for adoption.
Your family will come around once there's a new grandbaby to see and spoil.
2007-02-14 05:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there isnt much you can do now. Its great he wants the baby!! Just make sure he gets the divorce if thats what you guys want. Raise your baby. Your family will get over it.
Good luck!
2007-02-14 05:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by MommyTwice-TwiceTheLove 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very grateful that your bf wants to have the baby. You are 30- an adult so please raise that child with love. Your family could be devastated, but remember that child is yours and your bf. You chose to have sex with him so chose to do the right thing and carry the child to term and love it. Your responsibility now is to that child that cannot defend him/herself.
2007-02-14 08:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 30 years old, do not worry what others think, if you love someone you stick with him even throught the tough times, NO MATTER WHAT.......just pray.....and be happy, i mean is your family going to support your baby and pay for your stuff, NO!...
who cares just be happy enjoy your life and congradulations, sorry cant spell that word.
2007-02-14 06:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by JUSTAGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋