Is it stealing if your husband wont give money and you have to forge his name sometimes and take it ?

Question

I mean should you really have to keep asking? We are supposed to be partners right? I give freely why shouldn't he? And frankly I feel that half of his is mine, that's the way I conduct my money. Why is he being so selfish? Everytime I ask him for help he gives me the third degree and even then it better be an emergency!
What is the deal with these butt clinching money hugging men?

Answer 1

It all depends on what you guys agreed from the beginning.

Legally, being married means that you two share what you own. Period. Of course, if you divorce, then you can fight over things, but this is not the case.

If you two agreed to keep separate accounts and keep money on each side, then you have to ask for money if you need it and vice versa. If you share everything, then you don’t have to ask, but you two should inform each other when spending money on some “extraordinary” things that are not schedule in monthly payments.

For example, when my wife and I were engaged, we moved together for many years. We kept separate accounts but kept borrowing money from each other all the time. We would just ask.

After we got married, we merged all the accounts, and we now share our salaries. We deposit all our money in the same account, have one saving account, etc, etc. Monthly payments are taken for granted. We both have assigned identical amounts per month for our own private use. We can use that money for whatever we want and we don’t ask each other why or when or what.

After that, if any of us need anything, then we ask if is ok to take money and what is it for. We are now so used to it that even our own private money it stays usually in the same account and we end up buying things together. We trust each other and we know each other well enough to know that we won’t spend foolish money.

You two must sit and talk, because there is obviously a problem in the relation. You two don’t share things and that is not what matrimony is supposed to be. And worse, you keep on needing money and he keeps on not wanting to give you money

If you two don’t agree with how money is shared, then your relation will not work as today, our society is based on money, and like it or not, you need it to survive. And as a couple, all that you own should be equal to both. Otherwise, divorce and be over with it.

You must explain what the money is for (and it better don’t be for something stupid) and he must change his attitude about you and money to. Communication is the key for a good relation, and you two must communicate.

Hope this helps.

Happy V Day, and go out together and spend some money on each other.


PS: this is directly to “CookingWithProzac L “ :

I suggest you watch how you answer people. And do some research before you get married (hopefully you are not married yet for the sake of the poor woman). Legally when you get married, both become owners of EVERYTHING you two own. So yes, half of what he owns is hers and vise versa. If your wife doesn’t work, still half your money is hers like it or not and you must support her. Welcome to the real world. And if you “slap the living p i s s out of your wife” ever, you will get in jail in no time.

Grow up, and stay away from serious forums and websites.

Answer 2

Even though I agree with you that marriage is a sared covenant between a couple and God, forgery is a federal felony and if your husband finds out about it he could have you brought up on charges, even though the law has made marriage a legal issue ( this being the most abusive violation of the seperation of church and state ) . My wife and I have always shared "OUR" money, regardless of who brings more home because we are committed to each other and not to money or any other lesser "thing". I think your husband is a selfish, controlling brat and that you deserve a real man who will treat you with the dignity that every human being ought to be given. Good luck

Answer 3

Why in the world is any of it yours? He earned it, he's not giving to you as a gift, so you're taking possession of it without his knowledge. Are you "borrowing it" with intent to return?

Learn to live within your means, you don't deserve half of anything he has, nor do you have any claim on his income - he doesn't have any claim to yours, does he. How would you feel if he demanded half of your paycheck (or anything else you've spent money on since you've been married) just because he felt he "deserved" it?

I highly doubt that you act this way due to your employment status (either if you earn little or no income), otherwise you would have mentioned it. Hurts to hear, but you sound like a golddigger to me, and I have no respect for that.

Do yourself a favor; instead of asking Yahoo! Answers, ask a lawyer, because you'll need one when he begins to wonder where his hard-earned paycheck went.

Answer 4

I am cracking up because I have been there and done that! I bet he want some azz when he ask for it. I know you are getting a lot of bad back lash, but I don't blame you one bit. Eventhough it is wrong, I can say he should help you when you need it. This should also teach you a lesson. Open a seperated bank account if you don't have one and put you some money aside. Trust me one minuted they love you then the next they will tell you to go to hell.

Answer 5

In your eyes you dont see it as stealing.. but if you are forging his name... you can get into some serious trouble for that. My husband would give me the checkbook so I could pay bills and what not and I would just sign his name... he gave the ok to do it. The bank people had a big problem with this and we found out.. his permission or not.. it was still illilegal for me to sign his name.

Answer 6

Did you or do you have spending problems? That might be why. Just talk to him about it! Maybe you two need to talk about the finances, maybe there is something wrong, maybe there's some overspending. Maybe you need to quit being so selfish too! It works both ways. Ask him what's going on!

Answer 7

Some people are stingy. I give probably 80 percent to my wife. And according to the law, yes it is illegal to forge. Morally, probably yes yet again. But saying loosen up or look for somebody else is plain legal.

Answer 8

It's identity theft. If you want you can prosecute him. Not only can you throw him in jail for a pretty long time, you can sue him under the statute of fraud and receive not only the money he stole from you, but treble damages for the willful wrongdoing.

Answer 9

You'd need to take this issue up with him...and perhaps earn your own money so you can stash what you need to. Unless y'all get some counseling or something, your future as a couple doesn't look too bright.

Answer 10

If he pays all the bills, but doesn't give you any money for yourself, then it is okay to take some. He should be the one feeling guilty for not giving you any money.