order food and hang out at my house. Is it ok, that he doesn't even give me roses? Does this mean he doesn't like, care or even love me, maybe he's not that in to me. What do you guys think? Isn't this a lack of love and respect?
2007-02-14 05:40:37 · 56 answers · asked by jennyju 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
I got my girlfriend stuff before going to work this morning, but honestly..I'm not a fan of the "stupid hallmark holiday"..don't get me wrong I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND! But how about you make a compromise..say he gets you the stuff you crave, but later on like the weekend after valentines day..so he can get you twice the amount of roses and chocolate/jewelry/etc, for half the price without the rush and tension of crazy men trying to satisfy their wives/girlfriends.
2007-02-14 05:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Dorkus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer the question... What did you get him? Girls forget that Valentines day is a two way street.... Maybe because you didn't make a big deal of it then he didn't think that he should make one either.
On the other hand if this is a first time boyfriend/girlfriend thing for both of you then he may be just ignorant to the fact that girls think that Valentine's Day is a big thing.
Also, he may just not have the money to buy roses or jewelry.
Or he just could be one of those guys that are not romantic and will never be. In which case you might want to reconsider the relationship if romance is a big thing for you.
Give him a chance, he may surprise you tonight. If he does nothing for Valentine's Day except to try to get you in bed then you have every right to tell him how disappointed that you are in him and tell him that maybe you both should rethink this relationship. If he really does love and respect you then you will see an immediate attitude change in him.
There is no "Guy" manual... Guys sometimes have to be told...
Good Luck and Happy Valentine's Day!
2007-02-14 05:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dan J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some boys just aren't romantic in the buying flowers, etc. sort of way. Plus, Valentine's Day isn't over yet--you might still get something. But even if he doesn't, I wouldn't read too much into it. He is spending the day with you, after all. If this relationship lasts for a long time, though, and you want roses next year, drop some hints. There are some guys out there who just don't even think about stuff like that.
2007-02-14 05:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by cg17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it ain't over yet. many of us guys are kinda last minute type people.
Personally I don't like getting valentines stuff early because I feel like valentines should be on valentines day. I haven't given anything to my wife today YET... She was asleep when I went to work and I didn't want to wake her up, but I can assure I will be stopping on the way home.
Even if he doesn't give you anything, it doesn't mean anything at all.
We just don't think flowers and all this cute crap is worth anything.
Imagine this:
boyfriend #1: Gets his girlfriend big elaborate bouquet and huge box of chocolates and a teddy for valentines.... the other 364 days of the year he's a jerk. He even cheated on her a few times.
boyfriend #2: He doesn't get her much of anything, and he's actually kind of a cheap guy. He doesn't want to get something inexpensive for her because he feels like it might make him look cheap, but he can't afford the real nice stuff. He ends up not getting anything, or getting something at the last minute because the nice stuff is all gone. But he is an honest guy, stands by her all the time and respects her.
Which one would you pick?
2007-02-14 06:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he'll give you something tonight. Valentines Day isn't over yet. Maybe he has a surprise for you. And if he doesn't have anything, doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. It's a Hallmark Holiday and I think it's just an excuse for women to get gifts. If a man really loves you, he'll get you presents and surprises any other day of the year, instead of being forced to do it today.
I give little presents and surprises to my girlfriend all throughout the year. She loves it and she knows how much I love her. We don't even celebrate Valentines Day, because it's BS. Well, thats my opinion anyway.
2007-02-14 05:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by Isaac C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than I do. Is he normally like that? Some guys don't do the typical romantic things (flowers, candy, etc.), but they show love in other ways.
Without knowing your boyfriend it is difficult for me to know if he just isn't one of those guys that gives flowers or if he does not care about you the way you care about him.
In the three months that you have been dating has he shown himself to be romantic or is he never romantic with you? I don't mean sexually or kissing, I mean does he normally do the little things that make you feel special?
In general, I would say that even the most romantically inept guy knows to give some kind of a gift on Valentines Day. It's just one of those things that is expected, unless his lady doesn't like Valentines Day gifts.
I can only speak for myself. If I were with someone for three months, I would give them a Valentine's Day gift. What kind of gift would depend on how serious I thought the relationship was and what kind of message I would want to send. For example, I probably would not give lingerie or diamonds after just three months, but I would give flowers and candy, etc.
Baically, only you can judge whether your boyfriend cares about you, but I would not just base it on whether he gives you flowers today or not. You have to look at how he has treated you for the past three months, and then make your decision.
I wish you well, and Happy Valentine's Day.
2007-02-14 06:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its okay. Trust me ^_^ He might just not know what to get you and decided that just spending time with you is enough. Maybe he's just one of those guys who thinks Valentines Day is an overrated holiday. Why do you need a special day just to show someone you care? I wouldn't worry tooooo much. My boyfriend of a year didn't get me anything for my birthday. My 18TH birthday!!! But we did hang out and have fun, and that was more fun then anything. Just think... the roses will die, the chocolates will be eaten, but the time you two are together will always be there. Just enjoy it!
2007-02-14 05:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by x_colormegreen_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's giving you his time. He's going through the trouble to be at your house. And he's going to eat a meal with you. Isn't that enough?
Of course it's not. He's a dumbass if he doesn't bring you something, and you should let him know about it in no uncertain terms.
I once spent Valentines day with an annoying ex that I was just using for sex, and I found a too-small sweater I had been given for Christmas, and I regifted it to her. She was never the wiser, and I got to have my own private joke at her expense. Yes, it was evil. But my point is that you should be careful about what you wish for.
And if he gives you a brown sweater that would almost, but not quite fit him, you're being played.
2007-02-14 05:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be that "in to" Valentine's Day---Sorry! He has known you for only three months. He may not feel he knows you well enough yet to do much. At least he's spending time with you. I know you do that, but he could play the many cards of people who don't want to: I'm sick, I have other plans (another girl he met), etc).
2007-02-14 05:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same thing, the worst of it is we live far apart and don't even get to see eachother. I think the holiday is not about gifts but sharing the day together and expressing your feelings for eachother. Maybe when you hang out with him, hint around to how he feels about you. And if him not getting you anything really bugs you, be forward and just ask him. I did that and my poor guy apologized like crazy. I hope this helped you out and that you guys work everything out. Happy Valentine's Day!
2007-02-14 05:46:57 · answer #10 · answered by maceysiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋