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My friend's mom died a few months ago after battling with cancer several times. Her dad left when she was young and no one has seen him since. She does not have any living relatives. She went to go live with a friend and her family. She had to move schools and leave her home and all of her friends. Now she is really depressed and started smoking. I want to make her feel better, but i don't know how. I could not even imagine the pain she is going through. I cannot just say to her everything will be okay...because it is not okay. How do I help my friend?

2007-02-14 05:40:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

7 answers

sadly there's not anything you can say.however there's a lot you can do..be her friend through her tears and don't try to make it better,just make sure she knows she's not alone in her pain.It will slowly get better but in the meantime...be there if she needs you and only if she wants to talk..listen

2007-02-14 05:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Wow that is horrible. First off you need to Pray for her. I have always hated when people tell me they know how I feel when they really have no idea of the pain. The best thing to do is let her know you are there for her no matter what. Try taking her out to a nice lunch and walk in a park or something maybe she just needs the chance to let everything out. If you attend a church ask her to come along there are so many people that could lend her spiritual support. Check out some books for her on the grieving process. Believe it or not some people feel guilty about grieveing and they dont understand how. She needs a proper time frame for this phase. All I can tell you is make sure she knows how much you care and love her and that you are always there.Good luck and God Bless you and your friend

2007-02-14 13:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 1 0

You don't necessarily have to think up anything to say to her, because truthfully, there isn't anything to say. The only thing that you can do is be there when she requests it of you, and not dwell on her past and present situations. She's got that covered. It must add to the misery that people are looking at her with pity everywhere she goes. She needs the opportunity to not contemplate her life every minute. Maybe you two could just go out and do something different from what you normally do.

Buena suerte!

2007-02-14 13:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by rayediance 2 · 1 0

you just have to be there for her. try to see her as much as possable and be her friend. My best friends father died a couple of years ago. It was bad too. I never said things would be okay either but shes okay now. I was close with him, there home was my home. She probably feels very alone right now. I always bring her father up and talk about the good times we had. crazy things we used to say. i go with her every year to visit a beach where his ashes are. Just be there for her. tell her that you are concerned about her or talk to the people she lives with about your concerns.

2007-02-14 13:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by rain9439 2 · 1 0

Hi , you may have a good relationship with your friend , It is very hard but try to ignore everyThing just in your mind and relax.I mean you should control yourself first, then you can continue the same as before. Try to make him happy , the Time will solve th problems by itself don't worry.

2007-02-14 13:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0 0

Wow that is rough! I couldn't imagine that type of pain either. Just let her know your there for her always. Maybe she needs counselling. i wish her the best ,she seems to have a terrific friend

2007-02-14 13:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_punky 1 · 1 0

You are already. What a sad story! She has to devote herself to others. Fastest way to deal with tragedy. If she's old enough, she can find a job caring for others with similar life. This is very difficult for you, good for your caring nature.

2007-02-14 13:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by peter s 3 · 0 0

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