I find it so extremely weird that none of the relationships ive been in lasted.And that applies to my friends,boyfriends,and to even people ive just met! I don't know..i find myself getting annoyed at people easily.and when someone tries to get close to me,i find that im always trying to get him/her away from me..and i tend to hurt their feelings,unintentionally.But at the end of the day,im the one who ends up with no good friends.How can i change?
2007-02-14 05:39:26 · 14 answers · asked by miss diva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have to love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love you.
Maybe nothings wrong with you and you are just attracted to the wrong type of men and the wrong friends.
If you find the right friend they won't ever leave you, no matter what you do.
I say just chill out and relax and wait for love to find you, as for the friends, go out and socialise, join a club - sports or hobbies. It works, trust me, I've lost many a good friend over the last few years but eventually I made just a few and they are the best friends I could ask for.
I am sorry you feel bad, but trust me, it wil get better.
Dont change yourself to suit others, you need to be yourself!
2007-02-14 23:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're really sad & mixed-up.
I feel very sorry for you.
Could it be a case of "once bitten, twice shy?"
If you snap people's off - not literally, of course! but verbally...
people are going to think "huh? What's wrong with her?" & move away... so I think, you need to be less cutting, weigh your words more carefully, & come across as less... catty?
Look up the word: Tact, in a dictionary... take that on board...
Then try to work out why you get annoyed, & want to drive people away?
Maybe there is something about other people you just don't like, or that scares you?? Would has caused that? If you can't analyse that out of your system, then perhaps speak to a therapist, who could help you sort out your anxiety & cure it simply? Sometimes, just being more self-aware, makes you stop bad habits over-night!
Good luck. Take care.
2007-02-14 14:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been hurt in the past maybe that is why your not letting anyone close to you for fear of getting hurt again, you could maybe suffer from a bit of depression and that could be why you get annoyed at people so easily, it could be a number of things, try relaxing and make a list of your good points and then your bad then think of ways on how to change your bad points
2007-02-14 13:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by ✿Regina Felangie✿ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought i was the only one.It's hard isn't it ?, you wake up in the morning and realise that there is knowone to talk to because you have pushed them all away.I think you have made a very important step towards trying to get out of this, mine came from being rejected from my mother and never being accepted for who i was/am.I say to myself that i know i have made some bad choices and will accept them but i am also not going to let it make me unhappy.I thought to myself that this time next year i would make sure that i would have at least one person in my life who i have made a conscious effort to be consistent with.I have vowed to take a genuine interest in people and wait for people to do something wrong before i anticipate that they will.I have also tried to look at things from people's own point of view and realise that everyone is human and will make mistakes.Most importantly i say to myself everyday that i have to love myself because nobody else will.
If you want to talk i am here, jst mail me
2007-02-14 16:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, you sound like me. It's hard to trust someone when you'be been dumped on in the past. You expect it to happen again & before it does you "nip it in the bud" before it has the chance. Am I right? Unfortuantly it's going to take a long time to let yourself accept anyone in your life until you can accept yourself. (I still do it sometimes) You know your own faults and should find ways to handle them and do so one at a time. Try to always keep an open mind and open to suggestions and you can't push yourself to change anything you're not ready for yet. Move @ your own pace but always keep your chin up.
2007-02-14 16:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who has hurt you so badly in the past?
You need to work this out, so that you can resolve these issues before you will be able to form solid relationships and or friendships.
There are fears in your sub conscience that are making you behave this way.
You should be able to change, but I think you need to discover the real you then you can move on and meet all these new friends.
Remember strangers are friends we have not met yet.
2007-02-14 16:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself questions, go back and see what could off cause it.
who are you as a person, how do you describe yourself and how do others describe you?
you can change if you want and you are willing to.
Maybe is not you, but ask yourself what could of happen that friends are going away.
ask someone that will tell you what happen i know you have someone there a friend that can tell you.
Good Luck!
2007-02-14 13:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Gloria (Madison) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just mellow otu. you just need to relax ariund people. Plus i think you just see what you don't like about people instead of seeing whats good. Plus don't feel bad, I get mad at my friends all the time but they just say cool it.
2007-02-14 14:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Renee' 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you enjoy being independent and in control.
try not being harsh to people.
you just have to take a step back and think about the consequences of the things you say.
2007-02-14 13:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your just moody..like myself. But not so drastic as in your case. You know what drives people away so work on that.
2007-02-14 23:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋