And I am not sure how to deal with the fact that she puts me down. She also runs her mouth almost uncontrollably. What do you think would help her most? What kind of anger management options does she have? She throws little tempertantrums like a little child.
2007-02-14 05:26:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I think that is she acts like a child she should be treated like a child, and children don't have relationships. She needs to get some type of help if it is that serious. Don't take up on responsibilities that are not for you if she has family let them help her and when she is mature enough then she can look for you!!!
2007-02-14 05:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jazmin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What would help HER? What about YOU? Your spouse/partner is the one person in life who is supposed to be on YOUR side. If she can't be supportive of you, and in fact doesn't seem to have any respect for you, then you don't need to be with her. Childish temper tantrums are unacceptable; most people stop having them around the age of 4 or 5. There is no reason for you to put up with her behavior. Staying with her for the sake of the children, if you have any, is not a valid reason because what sort of example are you both setting for them. I have been in this exact situation before, so I know from experience that people like this don't change. The best thing that you can do is to LEAVE. Don't think talk it over with her, just do it. What's she going to do, tell you that you're worthless without her or that you'll never find anyone else? Bullsh*t!!! You are not worthless and there's ALWAYS someone else. Good luck!
2007-02-14 15:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that she is worth sticking around for; personally i don't think so. But if you really care about her try going to couples therapy, that way when you tell her how you feel, the mediator can be there to explain to her that that kind of behavior is not acceptable.The therapist will also recommend individual therapy for her, that way you won't have to. You can find this type of therapy locally. When you ask her to go with you make it seem as if you want couple therapy for the two of you so that she won't get offended and defensive.It will be easier to persuade her to go that way. Good luck!
2007-02-14 13:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I been there and the girl gots real issues most likely...she could have a mental health condition like being bipolar or many other things...if you care have her get checked out and put on the right medications and if not just move on it will never get better unless she makes herself better you can't change her only she can.
2007-02-14 14:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by elrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refer to the answers to your previous question about her physical abuse. WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO GET HELP FOR HER? ONLY SHE CAN HELP HERSELF! You need to take care of YOURself. That's why she is treating you like this-because you don't! Like I mentioned, YOU go to Alcoholics Anonymous and work on your co-dependence. It is not just about alcoholism, but staying in abusive relationships. They will give you the strength and support you need to let go. You should also look into a good counselor. If your wife/gf is willing to go to Couple's Counseling, do it. If she refuses to go, go alone. But don't worry about trying to change her. It sounds like she is not willing. If she wants to, let HER look into places SHE can get help for her abusiveness. The fact that you are looking for places she can get help just shows how much you are letting her walk on you. It is partly your doing that she treats you this way. She is unhealthy and you are co-dependent. Get help for YOURSELF!
2007-02-14 13:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she does it because you let her get away with it. when she starts acting like that tell her you are not going listen to her putting you down and when she can talk to you with respect then this can continue. if she can't control herself she needs to get into counseling. she has to want to help herself, you cant fix her. but don't sit around and be her punching bag. overtime it will beat you down and wear you down, it sounds like verbal abuse.
2007-02-14 13:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her, and maybe she will learn to control herself. If not your better off
2007-02-14 13:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by sc 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she does it because u just sit there and take it. i'm not sayin u should put your hands on her, but certainly u hafta convey that her behavior is unacceptable.
2007-02-14 13:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is an emotional abuser. Leave her.
2007-02-14 16:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her! Why are you still hanging around..That should have been your question
2007-02-14 13:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋