and when he got up to go to bed, it fell to the floor-so I picked it up and -yeah you guessed it-I snooped! So here's my question! I found a newspaper clipping about his first love from high school and it was saying how successful she is, living in Hawaii etc... so -ladies- would that bother you if you had found it in YOUR H or BF wallet??
2007-02-14 05:08:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You would have to either ignore it, or admit to stooping to snooping. I guess it depends, is this 1st love from high school? how long ago was it? If it is a newspaper clipping I guess y'all live in the same place. Seems pretty harmless, he would have read it in the paper anyway. Personally, i still have letters from other women from when i was in the Navy. They are packed away in a box in a closet somewhere, but my wife knows i still have them. Other then the clipping how is your relationship? Do you really think it is worth making into an issue...Just something to think about. Hope this helps.
2007-02-14 05:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by johnkmayer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not in the least, because 1. you do not know why he is carrying it..maybe someone else clipped it out and handed it to him, and he put in his wallet and forgot about it. 2. If you really think about it..somewhere in all your stuff you probably have something from an old boyfriend or some memento..3. Maybe he has that there to remind him of what life would have been like with her...and thanking FATE that its not his life.
There are a million reasons. Your best bet is to mention her name casually in a couple of days, and say you heard that she lives in Hawaii..you know your hubby and you can guess how he feels from that.
But, don't get mad...sometimes guys keep things that remind them of a certain time in their life..for no reason...
2007-02-14 13:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It wouldn't bother me.
1- He loves you and married you.
2- It is really interesting to see what happened to people you went to school with, who can blame him? It is an excuse for him (AND YOU!) visiting Hawaii.
3- If he does have an infatuation with her, don't act like it hurts your confidence. That is Sooo not sexy.
4- Talk to him. You know him better than anyone. Do you believe his answer? Go to Hawaii and have fun, meet her. She might be a really nice person and have no interest in him.
5-This is a newspaper article- not a personal note.
6- If he is one you REALLY think will be tempted, look at your own relationship and find answers.
Good luck.
2007-02-14 13:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by Avsky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would totally bother me, I am a jealous person though. I would not want my husband calling or checking on his ex. If he was interested in her life, I would ask him why. I snooped before through my husband's e-mail and then admitted it, he was understanding about. I think because he has nothing to hide. I would definitely tell your husband what happened and see why he has his ex's clipping in his wallet, maybe there is a good explanation.
2007-02-14 13:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the fact that he took the time to cut it out would bother me. You may want to find out if maybe a friend or something had found it and cut it out for him. He may have read it and stuck it in his wallet just being polite and never intended to actually keep it. I guess I would try to find out when it had been printed to see maybe how long he has been carrying it around. But mostly you should just talk to him about it and see what he says about how he got it and why it's in his wallet.
2007-02-14 13:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. Yeah because I would be a little jealouse he was thinking of smeone else. But no because sometimes I have an ex who crosses my mind. Not that I'd be with them, but the thought is there. Don't let the jelousy side get to you. Ask him about it. But be prepared to NOT get offended and yell at the answer. He is human and makes mistakes. You deserve an answer, but he is entitled to his thoughts. As long as they aren't in his wallet.
2007-02-14 13:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by muzicizlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In court of law, an evidence obtained via illegal search is considered inadmissible.
Let us try to apply it to real life, shall we?
You have a clipping, you've obtained it by going through his wallet while he was asleep. If you confront him about this, you also have to admit HOW you came about this piece of info.
Now let us examine this as it is:
It's only a newspaper clipping, he might be a bit nostalgic, and the lady in question lives in Hawaii for God's sake.
Unless hubby jumps on a plane heading in her direction. I strongly suggest you let this go.
2007-02-14 13:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No that at all now if I had a feeling that my husband was meeting her and going out with her then that you would different but if he is just remembering the good high school years then their is nothing to be worried about. Now if your husband begins to have pictures and recent letters from her...then you need to get help and dump him!!
2007-02-14 13:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about it..tell him that you were snooping and deal with the consequences of that. Accept his answer and move on. Especially if you don't live in Hawaii!
2007-02-14 13:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not bother me, I would even make light conversation about it. He is entitled to have a memory and to be proud of a past friends success. I would not make it a problem because it does not appear to be one. Why would you be a little insecure about that , he married you and not his high school crush.
2007-02-14 13:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋