Was I irresponsible with my husband's valentine? He's a cop.?
the local radio station had a deal where you could call in your valentines, so I called and said "happy valentine's to my SUPERCOP Mike ____, and my super kids. he works drug interdiction and was livid that I said his name. I was just trying to do something nice and he's being a complete jerk. I didn't say where he worked or anything like that. Was it really that irresponsible?
he's not an undercover cop.
do you think he's paranoid?
2007-02-14 05:00:27 · 14 answers · asked by elfkin, attention whore 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Its hard to see what the danger is. I guess if your phone was listed maybe people could look it up. But really if anyone wanted his name how hard would it be to get?
Yeah I just don't really see his issue? Sounds like he was being too sensitive
2007-02-14 05:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce Tzu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Undercover or no longer, it grow to be slightly irresponsible. Mine works interdiction too. we are in a small county so all those who lives the following knows him, besides the undeniable fact that it continues to be a protection issue. no longer only for him, yet now for you and your familly to boot. i do not advise to scare you besides the undeniable fact that it is actual. And he would no longer paintings undercover, yet from time to time, those adult men do ought to "make a purchase". Broadcasting his first and very last call on the airways, alongside with the reality that he's a cop grow to be no longer a wise decision. The 60+ year previous time period "free lips sink ships" is composed of suggestions. I advise you're saying sorry to him, enable him understand that you probably did not imagine about how your moves ought to easily harm him, that it got here from an area of love. tell him you want him, and that you'll attempt to keep from making a mistake like that in the destiny. in the present day, all you are able to take is a humble aproach. it may no longer look like a lot to you, yet in his interest, regardless of anonimity he has is fairly major. And believe me when I say that it has no longer some thing to do with a lady on the aspect.
2016-12-04 04:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by santella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he isn't an undercover cop, he is in drug busts and down the line could be an undercover cop. Every day, he puts his life on the line. By you acknowledging him as a cop, you could potentially put his life in danger in the future. I understand you were only trying to do something nice, but jeopardizing his life in the future isn't worth the nice gesture. Maybe you could have surprised him when he comes home with his favorite foods and cooking it in some sexy lingerie. Then giving him whatever he desires, sexually. That would be a nice gesture. It's private, nice and doesn't jeopardize his life in the future.
2007-02-14 05:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by insidehomerun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's his point of view...
You have just announced on the radio that a cop named Mike ____ has kids and a wife. ANY personal info, no matter how small, can be used against him in the field.
The criminal mind...
Mike's name is on the arrest records of a criminal. Criminal can look up Mike's full name on the internet and get a home address and phone number. With the address, crooks can cause unthinkable problems that I won't go into detail so I won't scare you.
Anyways, nice thought. I wouldn't hold it against you. This will pass.
2007-02-14 05:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I used to be a cop, and my husband still is.
Maybe he is getting crap for it at work( the drug interdiction thing don't really need all of the drugies knowing your name.... or that you have a wife and kids), or maybe he just didn't want to have his name on the radio.
2007-02-14 05:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give me a break. He's definitely being paranoid. What criminals are really gonna know you were talking about him. Men are such jerk-offs sometimes. I could picture my husband acting like that, not that he is a cop or anything but he could be stupid and paranoid about similar things. Dont feel bad. It wasn't irresponsible. Enjoy your Valentine's Day!
2007-02-14 05:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Crash 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You made a mistake. You can learn from it and he can grow up. He's upset because there could be drug people that are familar with his name. It could hurt in "stings". Let it blow over, and tell the radio station IN WRITING (keep a copy for yourself) not to run what you called in as a station promotion because of the security necessary for your husband's job. This action should take care of the problem.
2007-02-14 05:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its a little over the top, but some people are weird about privacy and their last names being known. I guess you just apologize and tell him you just wanted him to know it was for him. I'm sure he'll lighten up when he realizes you did it because you love him. Good luck with that, and try to keep your chin up and have a good day.
2007-02-14 05:06:49 · answer #8 · answered by 1st time prego 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats really thoughtful of you! : ) But i can see where he gets alittle upset. We have a DTF (drug task force) and ive never known any of the names.. i guess if they try to make a bust they dont want the drug users to know.. could be kinda dangerous.
2007-02-14 05:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by mickeys_babe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see his side in that it is his job and he has to keep his ID secret, but I think what you did was cute and very loving. You did it for all the right reasons and, if it was me, I would realise that and quickly forgive you and thank you for being so thoughtful and loving
2007-02-14 05:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Arizona Brit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋