How do i get my daughter to sign up for clubs and activities in her school???

Question

She is in the 10th grade and constantly saying she doesnt want to join any clubs or get involved in her schools activities, and i think she needs to do this for her future

She does nothing but listen to music and watch tv, i feel she needs to get involved in the world around her

Answer 1

you cant "make" a person to do anything against their wishes unless you are willing to quietly watch them fail at it

Answer 2

Leave her to do 'her own thing'. What you're indicating is that YOU want her to do whatever...

We can't live their lives for them (yes, I have a daughter) and the more that 'push comes to shove' becomes an overloaded shovel.

Where do you live? I'm an Oz person so your specific problems are and cannot be the same.

Perhaps the wider-world will help. 10th year is what: 3rd year into high school? So, she's a teenager. Rebellious and determined not to listen to you. The more YOU get stressed, the more SHE will echo your annoyance with teens per se.

Good luck!

Paul

Answer 3

No offense, but you as a parent pressuring a 10th grader to do something will probably make her less likely to want to do it. As long as she has friends, I wouldn't worry too much. You could ask her about other interests outside of school, maybe she'd like to join a community sports team or participate in a local theater group. Take time to find out what she's really interested in, if anything. My parents always tried to make me sign up for activities that THEY thought sounded fun, but if they'd really listened to me they would have known there were dozens of other things I really wanted to do.
Also, if you're worried about her having activities for college applications, they really don't care about those as much as they make it sound like; if they do want anything like that, they want to see that she's been a president of a club or something like that. Just being in a club won't make that much of a difference.

Answer 4

Speaking from experience here, don't push her to do something she doesn't want to do. She will resent you for it the whole time, and she will never enjoy something she would otherwise enjoy. Unless she is like a star basketball player or a star in some other sport, it is not really all that important to be in alot of activities. In high school, I was in band and choir and that is all I had time for, I worked part time as well. If she gets good grades and is a good kid, don't push too hard.

Answer 5

You can't force her to join the clubs unless she wants to. I didn't get involved in any when I was in high school and I turned out fine. Some people just perher to not join clubs but they turn out fine anyways.

Answer 6

The best you can do is guide her in the right direction. Find out what she's interested in and see if they offer those clubs in her school. Call her guidance counselor to tell her about the benefits of clubs, and activities. It will benefit her in the long run!!!

Answer 7

I was never in any sports for the highschool but i was into traveling teams like basketball. Maybe she would like that? Find out what she likes...does she like sports? maybe she loves to write, and joing the nespaper because she can write whatever she wants. Pick her talent and talk her into it. these days, colleges have soo many students to pick from, every little edge helps, even if it isnt with the school but something else. so tell her she should concider. just preach college because it is hard to get a job out here without a degree, she will find out when she is a jr what college means. just find out her likes and talk her into it.

Answer 8

I never did and had plenty of friends and now have a great paying job.
If she doesnt want to let her.
Sex is a much better after school activity.

Answer 9

you cannot make them join cause they will not participate. you can advise and give guideness but after that it is all up to her