i am not sure if it is possabble but i would like to know. he is a cheater and i am trying to leave him but he has gotten violent in the past and we have a 2 year old daughter that he has hit and strangled me infront of. i want to know if now is the right time to leave
2007-02-14 04:54:46 · 16 answers · asked by kris s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the courthouse right away and get an order of protection from this man. Call them first and they can give you instructions on where to go at the courthouse. You do not need a lawyer. The order will keep him away from you and your daughter. Don't let him intimidate you.
2007-02-14 05:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about the e-mail address. Worry about you two-year old daughter. If he abuses you, chances are he will abuse your daughter. He can hurt her or worse kill her, not to mention he can do the same to you. I am a mother of two and it took me two years to leave my ex. I know it is hard and hurts soooo much, but now I could not have asked for a better and more loving husband. You will not be alone. There are people who care about you and your daughter and would not ask for more than for you to get out of this relationship. Just leave...now. Seriously if you have time pack and leave now. If not just get up and go, you can get your stuff later with police escorts. When you leave try not to look him in the eye if you see him again soon. Chances are he will want to fight for his daughter. That's o.k. Leave that for the courts to decide. Maybe if you get a PFA or something for now, but please leave. Yes I know you love him, give yourself some time and you will find someone better. Good Luck!
2007-02-14 13:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by girly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting your daughter in danger. You should go to jail with your so called husband.
The 1st time he ever laid a hand on that child or you. You should have walked out and never looked back, I don't care how good you think he is in bed.
Don't use his cheating for an excuse to leave.
Who cares if he is cheating the child is more important than you wanting to make him feel like an a**.
I understand if you are scared to leave, but no matter what you do one day he will kill you or the child, it don't matter if you are their or someplace else.
Get some back bone and protect yourself and your child walk out the door and leave.
Cut off all ties to this man. If you don't you and the child will suffer for it.
2007-02-14 13:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick your things up and leave NOW!!! I have been in this situation and nothing gets better and the longer you wait, the harder it is to get out. Do not let him know you are leaving, especially if he can't even bide his actions around the child. Wait until he is gone and you know he won't come back for awhile, at least long enough to get your stufff together and get out! Why would you even need more proof that he is a scowndral. Do you want to end up dead? For the sake of your daughter...don't question anymore.... leave! Good Luck, and God Bless
2007-02-14 13:12:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one question for you..Do you love your daughter and if you do then you need to call the police and leave this man NOW or do you want your daughter to grow up without her mother..Stop all the bullshit excuses and get out now the police will get you out safely if you do not leave you have nobody to blame but yourself now a days there is help for women like you everywhere..Do the right thing for your daughter if not for yourself and leave this man TODAY....or your daughter will probably be attending your funeral or worse he will start abusing her..By the way been there done that got the T-shirt i too was once in your situation and i took my daughter and got the hell out and away from him...And last but not least why do you care if he has another e-mail address seriously you have your priorities all screwed up your concern should be your daughter and your safety you can't give me any excuses for not leaving him because i have heard them all and like i said i too was in your shoes before also but my daughters well-being meant more to me then anything...Get away from his abusive cheating *** NOW...
2007-02-14 13:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, 3 years ago before you reproduced with this jerk was the right time to leave.
The door is still open. And being violent is irrelevant if he doesn't know where you are.
Come on, you really should have enough sense to leave him today. If not, I can't have sympathy for anything but your daughter for having an abusive mother and unprotective mother.
2007-02-14 13:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about if he has another email account/address?! You've got bigger problems, especially if he's hitting you and possibly your child. Do you want the drama or what? Leave, get a restraining order and see someone about him hitting your child. Because you can be held accountable if you have to ever take her to an emergency room for treatment. Staying is stupid, you can do bad by yourself!
2007-02-14 13:00:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has hit your daughter in front of you, and you're worried about whether or not he has "another e-mail address?" Who cares?? Leave immediately, and file a police report. Now is the right time. This guy is trouble, you have to protect your child and yourself. Please call a friend, call the police, get out a.s.a.p.
2007-02-14 13:31:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord have mercy, woman. Get your child out of that situation. I know it's easier said than done, but do what you have to do. No baby deserves that.
As far as if he has another email address? Who the hell cares?!! He strangled your baby. He needs to be in jail.
2007-02-14 13:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he tells you the e-mail address, you won't know. If he's a cheater who cares what e-mail address he's using, contact an attorney and get a divorce. Or you can stay there and become a statistic. However, in either scenario... you are a statistic.
2007-02-14 13:01:21 · answer #10 · answered by Cdub 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋