If u r not AA u may answer as well. What is up with this whole attitude thing. I am an AA females and I do not speak the slang and brag about being the baddest *****.. I actually go to class do my work, and I am kind of on the quiet side. Why is it that other black females seem to have a problem with me bc of this. I never give them hateful looks or do anything to make them feel bad, however.. there stare at me unrelentously. I have been tempted to cuss them out several times, but I am not that kind of person. I don't understand why they treat me as if I am diff. I am not stuck up, but they treat as if I feel like I am better than them. All of this jealousy has got to stop. If we don't band together as a whole, then we are gonna continue to bring our race down. Another thing I don't get is why AA men go after these extremely ghetto women. It seems to me that they all look to these kind of women for sex, but when they want to settle they want a decent female.
2007-02-14 04:47:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
btw.. if you have a problem with this question.. then it is just your problem. I don't mean to come off as a racist or having self hate for my race.. but if there is any other female in my shoes they know exactly what I am talking about, so don't say anything negative until u have been in our shoes.
2007-02-14 04:48:30 · update #1
Honey Girl... no offense, but if you have been recieving these looks for years and years you would be angry to. That is just human nature. I, for one, I am sick of the non sense that that bring, and have been very tempted to say something, but I have kept my mouth shut bc I don't want to stoop down to their level.
2007-02-14 04:57:59 · update #2
I like you.
2007-02-14 04:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you know what sistah girl.. I feel you. my best friend and I had the same problem in high school... We just felt that alot of the stuff that other AA girls were concerned about was dumb and a waste of time... I just think that honestly some people don't get it... and its because of how they are raised... some shyt is pointless to be jealous over and pissed off at... all i was concerned about was doing what i had to do so i wouldn't have to be surrounded by girls like that. but what i also think it is that sadly its the ghetto mentality "They hate to see someone who may be doing better than them" Misery loves company.Now some people may not agree but the truth is the truth.. and i don't know why it is like that.... i mean there are so many stories about men and women who were just about to become something and go away to college or received a scholarship and then some how they get killed because when you have the hood mentality you don't want to ever see somebody make it outta there and it ain't you... and i just think it is so sad... and frustrating because sometimes i think SOME of my people just don't get it... we need to encourage and be proud of each other rather than hating on them... it makes me sick at how it is now... but not all black people hate like that.
2007-02-14 13:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Renee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chocolate, I'm also a quiet female and I speak the hood slang but that doesn't mean I don't do my school work or are less intelligent then you. I loathe loud ignorant females too but I realize that not everyone in the world is quiet and reserved like me. Maybe they don't like you because you subconsciously think you are better and it is evident by the way you describe them. You are stuck up but you are also confused because you don't even acknowledge it. People, not just black females will always have a problem with people that seem antisocial like yourself especially when they know you perceive them as ghetto or beneath you.
If you are recieving looks for years by total strangers, then maybe you should check your self because I'm quiet and I stay to myself and I don't get strange looks from black woman I don't know in the street unless they are a lesbo or like/don't like my outfit or something.
2007-02-16 04:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Conscience Sister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a white male, probably the last person you want to answer this question for you with an outsiders view...
it seems to me that a lot of AA are stuck in an idea...and its a stereo type of being big and bad and a lot of attitude...its become such a norm in the AA community that no one steps back to look at it realistically...like "we have been told this is what we are and how we have to be" no one for some reason is understanding that living up to a label especially such a negative one will always hurt them...
and by you being the thinker, who wants to do good and be good...well your a threat, they probably like to call you an "uncle tom" just because you are doing the 'white thing' with your life and laying out a future for yourself...personally i wish the AA community would try to be more like you, i really believe in second chances and education, being a powerful avenue to personal success and no longer falling into the 'stereo types' that they have been labelled...
and further more...to answer your sex question...well when uneducated and bored, sex becomes more and more prevalent as something to do...look at some of the thrid world countries where kids are being born faster tahn their environment can take care of them...
you probably dont get as much attention because you, are making a future for yourself, and probably have respect and value for yourself...your not just a booty call, but someone to be appreciated...thus you are scary to a ghetto guy, cause you might actually judge him for something more than the rims on his car...
2007-02-14 13:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by boosted 1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
same here...I'm not the way I am to avoid being a stereotype...I was just brought up this way....I don't use slang....my aunty would kill me....honestly... I don't put in ghetto weaves 50 million different colours...infact I don't even wear weave...and that's why I get hateful stares from these two girls in my class...I don't wear my hair the way they do...today was Civies at my school and I crimped my hair and put it in a bun and had my bands out...these girls had the nerve to whisper about my as i walked by... saying... something..hair....wack or white styles.. ??? okaaay
I'm sorry I'm not a stereotype...I'm just being myself....I don't try to act a certain way b/c of my race
but sometimes the case is..they ARE being themselves...b/c that's how they were raised...and they can be really nice...while others just all of a sudden one day just POOF! become rude and wear nasty looking weaves...and put on a mountain of gel
but just keep being yourself...one day those girls will grow up
2007-02-16 02:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably do think that you're better because they see something different in you and they envy that. Just the fact that they are so envolved in you and your actions is a compliment in itself. I went to an all girls high school and got the same treatment from many of the girls. Misery loves company, and if they even knew what it felt like to have success coming their way, they wouldn't be as hard on you as they are.
The true test of someone's friendship is to see if they are ever happy for you when something good is going on in your life. Just find others whom you can relate to. I think that one of the worst things to come out of our racist past is the fact that we have been placed against one another. It's so sad to see that it still exists today.
Don't cuss them out because you'll be just like them. When you speak to them, be calm and collective about it everything that comes out of your mouth. If they want to cuss you out, so be it. And after their finished with their temper tantrum, say, "Alright are you finished whining now?" and keep right on going. Girl you don't have time for all that! Kill them with your good grades and success!
As as for the guys, they probably feel that that's the best they can get. Trust me, there are some wonderful, intelligent brothas with goals out there JUST WAITING for someone like you!
2007-02-14 12:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is SO true I'm AA also! and i am in collage these girl's saying how I'm a disgrace to my race because i don't dress like a hoochie momma you my friend know how to make sense.
2007-02-14 12:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Princess froggy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the desire to curse a sister, you are no different from them except they will perceive you as a punk. Straight up, just the way it is. You know, black euphemisms have real place in sociology, and as the saying goes : Real recognize Real, and game recognize game................so when you play games with your own inner identity, you will attract the attention of females who deny their own identity...............and that equals a bunch of bullshit and drama. Be real, say what you feel, keep it respectful, and keep it moving. Head up, boots laced!
2007-02-14 12:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by honeygirlc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋