They would die if that was done to them but they say "life happens." He left his wife and kids behind. Everyone thought highly of the wife yet, for example, they gave a superbowl party and invited the ex and his girlfriend. What is that?
2007-02-14 04:35:55 · 20 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men get a pass. If the woman had left him, they would call her a slut and try to fix him up.
2007-02-14 04:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No they would not "die" if that happened to them and you don't know the whole story OR you are the wife who was left behind and are resenting your ex's new life. When you are married, your friends invite you as a couple and just because you broke up it doesn't mean that people have to take sides or forget old friendships. When I got divorced, some people froze out my "ex" until I told them that it was all right for them to still like him and socialize with him. I was hurt very badly when some friends thought they had to choose and so froze ME out. Once we showed people that life goes on, it was better for everyone and occasionally we turn up at the same parties. It is our actions that set the tone for everyone. We are civil to each other and so everyone relaxes. Cool your jets. It was a superbowl party and if the guys have watched football for years and years together, why should that stop because of a divorce? You're being petty and silly.
2007-02-14 12:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did this "ex" do anything to offend these friends personally? If not, there's nothing wrong with them staying in touch with this person. If they were friends before - how can some highly personal circumstances of this person's life can change that? No one "dies" when it happens to them, people go through divorce every day, with and without kids. "Life happens" is just about the only thing to say here. Both parties in the divorce share the blame 50/50; he might have left, but she was the one who chose him to be her husband and the father of her children; she could have chosen anyone else, but she had chosen him. End of story. The friends had nothing to do with her choosing poorly, best they can do is try to maintain the friendship they enjoy, without passing judgement and getting into other people's personal business too much. If she is offended by their attitude, she should find new friends.
2007-02-14 12:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because they were probably friends before they got married or they got along better during the marriage but it is wrong i do agree with that they should have invited the ex and his kids also.
2007-02-14 12:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are shallow. They would want the same treatment if they stepped out on their spouses. Remember when pregnant teens were sent away to live with an "aunt?" Don't do that anymore and look where "not judging" has gotten us.
Ignore people like Seti. Obviously the "other woman" still trying to justify her behavior.
2007-02-14 12:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because the couple split that does not mean the have to condemn the guy because he left his wife they may have not liked what he did or how he handled the situation with his wife and kids. They still consider him a friend no matter who he's with. What we have to remember is their his friends to.
2007-02-14 14:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by collinssherreha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had friends who did this to another friend. But if you look at the group, they are all a bunch of amoral people. They all lived with their spouses before marrying. 60% of them had affairs. They think nothing of dirty deeds to get ahead at work. I guess that I am surpised that you are surpised that people would do this. Most of them are like that guy that said "get over yourself." This is today's society.
2007-02-14 13:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by realistnola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have invited both if they were my friends and let them know both were invited let them make the choice on who was going to be there. Divorce is having to divide everything in half including friends.
2007-02-14 12:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spouses divorce eachother, why should the friends suffer?
Life does happen and the best way to get on with it when friends divorce is to just adapt. Both parties will eventually be romantically involved with others, it sounds like he just moved on first.
He didn't commit a crime. He left a life that made him so unhappy he was willing to leave his kids. Good for him for moving on.
Shame on you for trying to stir up trouble.
2007-02-14 12:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Couples that separate can be very hard to deal with, you as friends to both need to treat and welcome there new boy friends/girl friends into the group. You yourself would want your group of friends to treat you just the same...What you have to realize is that it can be uncomfortable for the separated parties to see each other with the new "other"....at first you should invite them to things separately then as time goes by invite them both and treat them just the same..
2007-02-14 12:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
probably because there is no easy way to choose between the 2. it's very easy for one to expect everyone to side with them, but our friends don't necessarily feel the anger, hurt and disappointment we do after a break up. they wanna try to stay neutral and friendly with all parties involved.
2007-02-14 12:47:10 · answer #11 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋