my friends friend got made at me for "stealing" MY best friend from her so when we go to the mall i never invite her and she gets even more mad at ME! I WANT TO SCREAM AY HER!!
2007-02-14 04:25:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your best friend's friend isn't "annoying and rude"; she's hurt and upset. For whatever reason, she can't see this transition of friendship as anything but a rejection of her, and so she lashes out -- at you, rather than her friend (who "rejected" her) because she still wants her friend back, and doesn't want to alienate her.
So, now you know what's up; it's not really about you at all, it's about her being hurt and lashing out at you only because it's safer than lashing out at her friend.
My advice to you is probably a bit inappropriate for your age; you and your friends (certainly the hurt one!) probably aren't mature enough for this yet. Nevertheless, here goes: take the high road. Invite her along, treat her like a normal human being. You don't have to be her best friend, but you don't have to reject her, either. In essence, she may believe that your mutual friend can only have "one best friend", but YOU need to be more mature than that -- you recognize that your mutual friend can like both of you very, very much, and her friendship with one doesn't degrade or diminish her friendship with the other.
Again, I don't know if you're ready for this -- and even if you are, she might continue to be rude and abusive -- but by taking the high road, you can sleep at night knowing one thing for certain: you're a better, more mature person than she is, and so whatever happens, you're a good person who did the right thing.
By the way, telling this person that she's being immature, or that you're a better person than she is, completely negates your superiority. Part of being a better person in this instance is knowing in your heart that you're doing the right thing, but also trusting everyone else to figure it out on their own.
Also, I don't recommend having a conversation about this with the person; odds are, given her immature behavior, any attempt you make to reconcile with her will blow up in your face. From your perspective, your job is NOT to fix the problem, and NOT to make friends with her (although if that happens by accident, great!) -- your job here is only to keep your friendship with the mutual friend, and do so in a way that minimizes the amount of stress and drama in your life.
2007-02-14 04:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u hv to face her
2007-02-14 04:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by friendsforever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on....and without her !!
2007-02-14 04:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up or ignore her
2007-02-14 04:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋