I have 2 sisters, and i'm the middle child. My little sister is 10, i'm 14. and my older sister is almost 17. Im really concerned that my older sister is really negatively affecting my 10 year old sister. My older sister is sort of a "bad kid", and last week, she gavew my little sister a condom, and told her to bring itnto school. she didn't know what it was, so she was asking every1 what it was, she got in troble with the teacher who called my mom, and my mom asked her where she got it. She covered 4 my big sis and tld her she found it on the side of the road.
My older sis has also done thimgs like this in the past, once she even offered her vodka. I don't want this to keep happening to my little sis, but when i tell my mom, she won't believe me! what can i do to protect my little sister?
2007-02-14 04:17:28 · 13 answers · asked by la_dmarma_lyd 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hello sweetheart. This situation sounds bad. The best advise that I can give you is to hang out with your little sister as much as possible. I know that you are 14 and she is 10 and it is not the "coolest" thing to do but it is best for your sister. She needs a positive influence. Because she has two older sisters she is looking up to both of you. By spending more time with her, you will have a greater influence. Teach her positive things and even more so emphasize on the negative things for girls her age(sex, drugs, bad grades, etc.) and how these things will harm her. As a child the negatives I was taught in my life stuck out more therefore; I did not participate in those things. As for your older sister, you can influence her too. By leading a healthy lifestyle, although she is older, she my begin to follow some of your lead. Stay positive and caring!
Kandice
2007-02-14 04:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by kv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a middle child as well and can relate. I have an older brother and a younger sister. I am 32 and am still struggling with some of these issues. I am learning that even though it can be difficult to be honest with family by not dealing with it now will only create worse problems in the future. I realize you probably don't want to ruin your relationship with your older sister but it sounds like she isn't being a good older sister - for now.
You can approach your parent(s) again and simply state that you want to be able to talk them honestly and that if they want to maintain some honest lines of communication (which all parents want) that they should seriously consider listening to what you are trying to say. Your other options are to speak with your younger sister about things. My older brother and my younger sister have always had a tenuous relationship and I have always been the one to keep a buffer between the two.
Remember, that every one has conflict and you can only avoid it for so long. More importantly it is how you deal with that conflict that will prove to be most important. I applaud the fact that you aare wanting to deal with this rather than sweep it under the rug. Good luck!
2007-02-14 04:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Joel L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your school councilor and also try talking to your little sister. Take her under your wing. Be the better bigger sister if you know what I mean. Treat her with respect, and watch over her like a mom would do. Sorry to say, your mom seems like she is a little to wrapped up in her own world to even notice what your older sister is doing. Your older sister is going to find herself in trouble soon enough. Unfortunately you might have to wait for it to happen before you mom gets the picture on what has been going on. In the mean time be the best you can be, keep your grades up and take care of your little sister. Good luck hun.
2007-02-14 04:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As bad as it is to say this because of what might happen....if your mom won't believe you go to someone else. A School counselor or someone. This can not be allowed to go on. Alcohol could kill your little sister and having things like condoms could cause people to get the wrong idea about what your little sister wants. Someone has to stop this and it sounds like you are the only one who cares to, unfortunately. Talk to someone, anyone, everyone that you can get to listen until you find someone to help you.
2007-02-14 04:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by mariandmommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I can totally answer this one. I don't know if you've seen my answers around (I see you all over the place, but it might just be because of the cool appealing blue icon / display picture. It stands out. Okay, so one of my good friends has some crazy names in her family. Her name's Savannah (she got off lucky!) and her sister's names are Charli, Stormy, and Punky. Her brother's names are Scooter, Scooner, Tracer, Racer, and Chaser. Crazy, right? Then there's my biology teacher, she has daughters named Brice and Owen. Both girls... There's also a huge family that lives here who all name their kids with same-letter names. Okay, I have to go look at the phone book for this one... The brothers: Rick Rock Rod Roman Romero Rory Ryan and their sister: Rockelle And they all had kids... whose names all start with the same letter... 1 -- Ty, Torie, Tia, Tyra, Tiara 2 -- Sheridan, Sydney, Shadley, Shaylyn 3 -- Chance, Chelsie, Chenae, Cera, Carley, Caitlin, Cheldon, Celina (but she died as a baby) All of the other ones got some sense and named their kids with different letters. I also have a friend named Kourtney, and she has siblings named Kyle, Kinsey, and Kelsey. And I babysit twins named Zacgary and Kaytln (pronounced the same as Zachery and Caitlin). NO typo's, I promise! Kaytln is spelled with no vowel between the "L" and the "N". Horrible, isn't it? My speech teacher has children named Cheyan (pronounced the same as Cheyenne), Cougar, and Conlin. I also know a family with 3 girls in their family, all named Maria. Even the mom's name is Maria. And the family I know that named all of their kids after Presidents. It all started with Adam, which is perfectly normal and good... until the went for Reagan, Kennedy, Jefferson, Madison, Jackson, Tyler, Grant, Carter (the girl!), and Fillmore. Brilliant, eh? Crazy... it's like they just kept having kids for the simple and mean reason of naming them after presidents. All the "D" names are crazy! My mom comes from a family of "D" names: Deborah, Denise, and Daryl. But those aren't as bad as Dallas...for a girl...that's crazy. Poor her. Thanks for reading my really long answer! Sorry, I can be a rambler, especially on all of these things that I find so crazy. Amy Edit: I wanted to also mention that Scooter and Scooner have the same double middle names, only flip-flopped. I don't really remember there's, but it's the same with Tracer and Racer. And their names are... Tracer Derek Robert and Racer Robert Derek I have no idea what Chaser's middle name(s) are... Funny that they gave them normal middle names though, huh? They could have at least made their crazy first names in to middle names, and saved them the trouble of potentially going by their middle names. Oh! And I almost forgot the siblings Cody (boy) and Coti (girl). Horrible! Cody grew up to marry another girl named Kody, and Coti has a son named Austin, and a daughter named Austyn! Actually, now she has an Elisia, too. If she has another boy and names him that...that would be so horrible!
2016-05-23 22:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOAH! that tough your big sister is rilly bad!! im not 14 yet but im 12 and i am in middle to but if i was you id try and just talk to your lil sis about the stuff u big sister does and let her know she dont have to do mess up stuff to be cool. im sorry ur mom dont believe you maybe if you can show her sometime what your big sister does she will do something cos that is really sad!! Im glad she got cool sister like you to help her though!! if it was me id pray about it 4 sure to.
2007-02-14 05:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by mandaluvsjc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
kick your big sister a*s*s and then go tell your mom why you did it if she acts sounds like she is jealous of your lil sister and truely wants to ruin her life talk to your lil sister about the wrong and rights and let her know that you love her and to be accepted she dont have to act the way the older sister acts gl
2007-02-14 04:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You might try catching her in the act of doing these things. You could try carrying a tape recorder in your pocket and when she is around turn it on then show it to your mother so that she can see that you are telling the truth.
2007-02-14 04:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by V H B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to look every second what your big sister doing to your
little sister.If not .you have to scare your older sister with an adult.
good luck
2007-02-14 04:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you stick up for your younger sister and keep telling your mother and other adult relatives.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
2007-02-14 04:20:57 · answer #10 · answered by Behaviorist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋