bad marriage question?

Question

would u stay in ur marraige that is bad because u dont worry about bills u have plenty of money

two kids now

or if u split u are poor

Answer 1

Money doesn;t mean anything when you see your husband screwing someone else, disrespecting you and having biiter fights everyday.

The beautiful house is not as beautiful when it becomes your golden cage and there are no good memories on it.

The expensive dresses on your closet do not serve any purpose if yoru husband doesn't take you out anywhere, and when you force him to, he complaints and makes you miserable because you force him too.

The brand-name furniture is useless is you don't have your way with your husband on it.

The jewelry that he bought you out of guilt are meaningless because they are constant reminder of his disrepect to you.

You may go to the best beauty saon in town, but your husband won't give you a second glance.

You forgot what it is to have butterflies in your stomach but have a professionally landscaped rose garden for butterflies to fly in.

You have cash on your walet, but your heart is cold, dry and empty.



I take my small house, old car and HAPINESS everytime. I walk away from EVERYTHING, and I would never regret it. I'm happier today thatn I've ever been,. I just wished that I had done this sooner.

Good luck

Answer 2

That is what I did. I stayed for the security. Meanwhile, get an education, get a good paying job. And most importantly make a life for yourself within the marriage that does not include him. (I joined a craft club and a took line dance classes) After the kids are raised and educated you can take off and demand half of everything. As long as you stay in the marriage 10 years the government feels you are entitled to SS and pensions. I felt no desire to race out and start another family and make little step brothers and sisters to my kids. All men are alike sooner or latter. They never get better, only worse.

Answer 3

You made a decision when you chose your spouse- "for better or worse." I don't know why you picked this person, but the fact is YOU picked him. Then YOU felt he was trustworthy enough, nice enough, a good role model to make TWO babies with him. Being a mother is about sacrificing. Actually, LOVE is about sacrificing what you want/need for the benifit/happiness of someone else- in this case your two children.

I think that it would be a very poor and unwise decision to leave your marriage because you are unhappy. You should really try to make the best of this situation for the sake of your kids. It will be very hard. But when your youngest is 18 you can re-evaluate your marriage and then the decision is yours to stay or leave. Children need their mother AND (and that's a BIG and) their father. Money shouldn't even equate in this decision. I can't even believe that money is a BIGGER priority to you than your own children AND you place your happiness above the happiness of your children - shame shame on you!!!

Answer 4

Depends on how "bad" it is I guess... But being that I've never stayed in a bad marriage, I don't really know what it would feel like. I'm thinking, for me to marry someone and have a couple of kids with him there's gotta be SOMETHING good in the relationship. And as long as these good things are there... can it really be *all* bad? I just don't know.

Answer 5

I've been poor since I split up with my first wife 12 years ago. Still poor 5 years into second marriage, but rich beyond my dreams in love and happiness. I'll take poor and happy over miserable with $ any day.

Answer 6

I would rather be broke, alone, and happy than in a bad marriage that I stay in just for money. The money ISNT worth it. And I have personal experience in this...I was in a TERRIBLY abusive marriage with 2 children. While he never hit me, he verbally abused me every day and didnt help me take care of the kids or give me money to help with bills even though he had a good job. So I decided it was time to move on. So I packed my bags, scooped my 2 boys up, and moved out. It was EXTREMELY hard on my own, and hard taking care of 2 kids by myself. But I wouldnt change it for anything because I knew I could count on me if I couldnt count on anyone else.

Answer 7

Whatever you said, doesnt seem to make sense. So how can you make sense of something as complicated as marriage?

If you need to make a decision on something......anything.
Put it on paper...All the positives vs all the negatives. That way it creates a better picture. That doesnt make the decision FOR you. But it does help lead one to come to some sort of conclusion as to what needs to be done.

Answer 8

sometime you have to let go. ever is you don't want to and start fresh. At time you said, you want to stay but just because of the kids. but the Truth is that you got to let go. and just think of the kid. there are your life for know and always. I know if you try you will success in life with everything you want. you just have to believe and have faith and thing we work for you.

Answer 9

No amount of money could convince me to stay in a bad marriage. I would work 6 jobs to make ends meet if I had too. Money cannot buy happiness.

Answer 10

It won't be easy but you need to live your life for you and your kids. Pray and ask God for strength. Also ever heard of alimony and child support? You'll be alright. Do what is best.