I've not spoken to my close female friend for 2 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.
I've tried to get bck in touch as I've got over her now and I'm interested in another girl.I've apologised if I wasn't tactful in the way I said I wanted no contact for awhile
She's txt bck:i really do not have the energy to keep explaining things to you.I will be civil but i'm afraid i feel the close friendship is lost...........
Why she like this - she wanted to be friends....surely she'll still not be hurting from me not wanting no contact for awhile........?
All lost?
Seeing her on Friday-said she'll be civil.Advice on how to cope?
p.s. her comment of not having energy to keep explaining things to me is when she didn't want to further than friends---THAT WAS 3 MONTHS AGO!!!
What she hurting from?Will she want to talk about this on Friday?
2007-02-14 04:12:05 · 12 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would not go to see her on Friday you w ill never know how you stand with her, she will keep breaking your heart without any explanations, she probably liked you fancying her and did not want you to back away for two months. But she did not want you as a close partner so what have you got to lose, pay more attention to this other girl that you are interested in. Do not get involved with mind games they will turn you round in circles and you will not know where you are. Good luck.
2007-02-14 10:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well IF she does love you then 3 months isn't going to make any difference. IF she is in love with you or even just loves you Platonicly then she's stuffed because those feelings wont just go away. Her hurt is because she feels let down I expect. I don't think you could have sent her the ear muffs then.
I don't understand why it's still a problem to you if you have found someone else. You just have to be honest and if you lose her friendship then you must take those consequences. You can't go through life in NO MANS LAND.
2007-02-14 15:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are interested in other girl & she wants to be just friend... whats the big deal? On friday if she expects you to start the conversation... just be casual...
She cannot explain the things... (that) she is alone. She might not keep the close friendship, yet still looking for a friend. If you cannot face her... you really like her.
2007-02-14 12:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably not hurt, but worried. She may be a little afraid that things will go the same way as before. Or maybe just as you lost your feelings for her, she lost the friendship for you.
Just approach her in a calm and assuring way, avoiding using a dominant tone. If she doesn't want to be friends anymore, respect her decision.
2007-02-14 12:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by J Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying - if you have to ask how much a yacht costs, you can't afford it.
If you have to ask why she is hurting, you'll never understand.
Yes, it sounds like it is, to use your words, "all lost."
You wanted no contact so you could get over your feelings for her - she got over her feelings for you at the same time.
You blew it - might as well move on.
2007-02-14 12:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advise is to not bring it up at all. She obviously still thinks that you have feelings for her. Don't bring it up and if she asks just tell her a tid bit of your new girl. if you mention too much, then she'll think that you're lieing or that you're trying too hard.
2007-02-14 12:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cancel the appointment
2007-02-14 12:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she just doesn't want to deal with you anymore. She doesn't want to risk your feelings coming back and doesn't believe you when you say they won't. It would be to awkward for her to be friends, let it go and say goodbye.
2007-02-14 12:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to move on. She does not sound like friendship material.
2007-02-14 12:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say, appologise and do someething that she knows is from you as a FRIEND. perhaps something you've always dont for a joke
2007-02-14 12:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋