I have been dating my boyfriend now for about 5 months and the first 3 months were great. Actually they were out of this world. I could see my future with him stretching into the distant. This has been my 1st non dramatic relationship and the infatuation stage has just ended. My last ex was a real "winner" NOT. He was a loser, lost his job as a police officer, abused me, got caught for DUI. A whole pile of crap. All in all I dated him for about a year and I know I was in love with him at the beginning but had to get myself out of his mess and move on with my life. I took a year for myself and just dated here and there, nothing serious. Then I met my now boyfriend and we clicked but I feel like I loved my ex more than I love my current boyfriend for some reason. I feel like something is missing in our relationship and I want to spend my life with him cause he is such a nice guy BUT I want my feelings to get stronger cause I dont want to love my ex more. And I am scared that I am convincing myself that I love him? How would I know if I was actually convincing myself? I still do enjoy spending my nights with him and making him a surprise on valentines day and stuff I just dont understand and am soooo confused.....I want my feelings to get stronger!!!!!!!!
Can we make it work even though I dont feel those butterfly/crazy feelings?
2007-02-14 04:05:40 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honestly just take a step back and let it happen. The more you freak yourself out over this the worse you will feel. If you can love him then in time you will, the whole butterflies thing is not a great indicator of love, just infatuation. Love is a deeper feeling of comfort and 'I can't wait to see him for dinner tonight' to talk about your day or whatever. Just give it time and see how you feel 6months from now.
2007-02-14 04:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flip a coin...
2007-02-14 12:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋