my friends sister died today. i wouldn't say this girl is one of my best friends but we are very good friends. i don't know what to do! i was going to phone her but then i thought maybe it would be best no to. then i thought about emailing her to let her know i'm there for her and stuff but i don't know what to say and maybe i should just leave it....i don't want her to think i don't care, because i do. she doesn't have many friends so i think i should show her that i care and i'm there for her....but i don't ant to upset her either....
she was only 13 too...i'm not just saying this out of sympathy but they are the nicest family i have ever known....life is so cruel....
i would say me and her sister were friends also. she used to tag around with us..she was awesome.
me and my friend are both 15
2007-02-14 04:01:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hmmm. she had cancer...she had it before, then it came back
2007-02-14 04:12:56 · update #1
check out this website, it might help answer some questions
http://www.owenfuneralhome.com/etiquette.htm
sorry for your loss. i will say a prayer for you and your friend.
2007-02-14 04:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by spacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to hear about this. I can tell you, as a person whose parents and brother died within the last couple of years, that it will mean a lot to your friend if you let her know you are sorry to hear about her sister and that you are there for her. You said you don't know what to say. Just say what you said in your question here. When people have lost someone they love, it hurts more when people don't say something out of fear for saying the wrong thing, than when someone says the wrong thing. She needs to know you care. Don't expect her to act all warm and fuzzy at what you say. Don't expect her to even seem like she appreciates what you say. She could even act mad. When a family member dies, a person can react to that in a variety of ways - all of those ways are normal (unless they are suicidal or something). Call, e-mail, or go over to your friend's house. Just do or say SOMETHING. Just tell her plain and simple, that you don't know what to say because you have never been in a situation like hers before, but you wanted her to know that you are SO sorry about her sister and you care, and you want her to know that if she ever needs to talk or anything else, you will be there for her - any time. That will mean a lot to her, even if she doesn't act like it. Trust me - I have been there. People don't care so much WHAT you say, or even HOW you say it. They just want to know you care enough to say it to begin with. Best wishes to you, your friend, and her family. My heart goes out to you all.
2007-02-14 04:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just email and say hi i just wanted to let you know im here if you need me. If she does wants to talk to you she will. When my sisters fiance died i found the best thing i could do was just sit there and listen which was just as well because there wasn't much i could say.
2007-02-14 04:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her it's ok, she will like that, she is going to be upset and probibly not say much and it will be a little awkward but just let her if she is ok or hows shes holding up and say im here for you if you need anything and really meen it. maybe even go over to her house to let her have a shoulder to cry on, she needs you right now and yes she will be upset but she needs to know she has support. im sorry for your friend thats very sad
2007-02-14 04:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by CRAZY 8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go over with a snack or coffee and just hang out. Let her and the family know that you are there IF needed. Only do this IF you will be there for them. If not, send a card adn pay your respects.
2007-02-14 04:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by rmdybles30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At school, just ask her if she wants to talk about right now, she'll most likely say no. Then just say when she wants to talk, that your there, and you'll always hae a second to comfort her. It will really make her feel better to know that someone really cares, and that she can hold on to someone if she breaks down.
2007-02-14 04:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by The PUNK Goddesssss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you are already aware, IBC is VERY rare, particularly in someone so young. As for your "symptoms". 1) Sounds like the bra fitted you badly. 2) Normal to have one larger than the other. 3) Sound like PMS (hormonal) 4) If it went away it is not cancer. 5) Skin irritation - Could be to do with fabric of bra, laundry detergent etc 6) Normal PMS 7) Fluid retention? 8) Normal 9) Normal
2016-05-23 22:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to a friend of mine a few months ago. he is a good friend but not a best friend. all you can do is try to be there for them. the biggest thing is to hug them or just hold there hand. they may not always want to talk and you have to know that it is okay. if they want to sit with you in silence then just do it.
2007-02-14 04:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, if you call her, she won't pick up. So leave a message that doesn't include one of the stereotypical "I'm sorry!" Or "My condolences." Speak straight from the heart, and tell them what you told us. That you're there for her if she needs it, and that they are such a nice family and that you admire them and you love them.
2007-02-14 04:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh . I am really sorry for your friend. you schould go to the funerals
2007-02-15 07:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋