How long does a divorce take?

Question

My husband has become so mean and closed minded that our children no longer want to be around him. He refuses to go for any counseling, church etc. Only goes to work and comes home
Refuses to do anything that doesn't meet his needs. No affairs on either side. He has just decided he doesn't want the responsibility of a family and wants us to move. I think he should move and continue supporting his family. We've done nothing wrong. The oldest child has moved out and the youngest wants to go too. I filed for divorce because I can't live with his meanness anymore but am wondering what he thinks he's doing. What kind of weasel would want to separate himself from his family after 2 decades?

Answer 1

The short answer is that a divorce is going to take as long as both parties haggle about division of property. The faster you come to an agreement, the sooner it all ends. Guess he's the kind of weasel that you shouldn't want to be around anymore. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

You got it bad. I can tell you that it may take year or even a few months. My divorce took me 5 years 3 months and13 days and i don't regret it at all. But on the other hand my sisters only took 3 months. I guess it just depends on the lawyer you have and also the time you have and of course the money you have. it takes all that and then some. But most of all any way it goes it takes time don't ruse in to any thing that you might regret later on. Make sure it is the right thing to do not just for you but also for the kids. But then remember Kids don't make a relationship, Love ,trust, respect and a backbone dose. I wish you the best and good luck.

Answer 3

He is having a midlife crisis and is burned out at work. I am not making excuses, just stating the facts. Don't nag, but if asked simply say "no". Don't move if you don't want to. Personally I don't think filing for divorce was the way to go, unless you have a job that can support you and your children and provide health care. A Trial Separation would have been better. He would be responsible for the expenses just as he is now.

Answer 4

Most states will require you a "waiting" period of 90 days before you are granted a divorce. And generally that's an uncontested. If there is property and children sometimes it takes longer, but if there is abuse it is usually sped up some. You can get a free consultation from a lawyer who can tell you what your options are and at least get you on the right track. Good luck and I hope that things work out for you.

Answer 5

My daughter filed an uncontested divorce through the court house and received it in 6 weeks. I filed 6/2/98 and the judge signed it 11/22/01 because we owned property and he rejected everything that my lawyer asked for. If your children are under the age of 18 and still reside in your home then he will be ordered to pay child support accordingly and generally the mother is awarded the home to reside in. Stick to your guns and don't let him force you out.

Answer 6

When it comes to a divorce it can go two ways.first way can be very quick and easy if both agree on things as well as the judge..The second it can drag out for years depending on what you both want examples " if a home is bought with in the marriage,land,even things inside the home can play a role,child support what ever toys you both own like cars, truck, camper things like thisIt just depends on how messy the other wants to make it. I think if he truly feels this way then he may want to have the divorce cut and clean...Good Luck to you and I am sorry that your marriage has to come to this..I hope it goes fast for you..

Answer 7

OK first I'm sorry that you are having to live with that! my now husband got divorced because his wife couldn't stay faithful to him after 9 years. we live in Ca and if its not contested and he will sign the papers with no problem the state makes you wait for 6 months from the sign date to be officially divorced that way you know for sure that you are doing the right thing but you can stop it at any time before the 6 months are up. but in Nevada i don't know the exact date and time it takes but it goes a lot faster so i would google it check it out and you don't have to be a resident from what I've hear to file one in Nevada so check it out good luck!

Answer 8

It's very common, and the bottom line is, you need to proceed and get a divorce. Make sure:
You yourself DO NOT move out of the marital home.
You are entitled to at least half of all assets, savings, his pension, and if you never worked out of the house, then also and equity payments.
You are entitled to a monthly alimony payments that will last till you re-marry.
Make sure your lawyer is a skilled one, and do not think about your soon to be ex-husband motives. You need to get this over with as soon as you can for your sake and the sake of your children, at least they are grown up and will be less traumatized by this.
If he gets violent, inform your lawyer IMMEDIATELY, or go to the police.
Good Luck.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, people change and it's nearly impossible to change them into what you want. Depending on the state you're in - there is a cooling-off period and as long as the assets and visitation is agreed upon - it shouldn't take more than 45 to 60 days after the cooling off period. Of course this depends on how far in advance you need to schedule your appearance due to the courts being backed up.

Answer 10

Froget about why he's that way. Concentrate on getting away from him. Call the court house or your attorney and ask how much longer before this divorce is final?