Women who mess with married men How do I tell..?

Question

My best friend who has a one yr old child and she is liveing with her step bother and his wife and their other 5 kids and my friend has been hooking up with her step brother for almost a year now and his wife even knows about it and I guess is ok with it and sounds crazy too me but.. the rest of my friends family don't agree with it and I don't either. but it makes me soo angry that he makes here think it's ok for her and him too hook up when he is already married, and my friend makes me angry too because she is in the wrong and is takeing somone elses man. But she was pregnant by him and she just lost the baby last week and I feel sad for that but I feel like her being with him is not good for her. how can I tell her how I feel about it?? is it my bussniss?? I mean I'm the only friend who she tells her busniss too like that and they even kiss in front of me so do I have a right to say something?
And she has had bad exsperience with men in the past

Answer 1

Well, I am probably the only person who will say this, so here goes. You may be the only person in the world who will tell her that she is horribly wrong, immoral and so forth. And you have a duty to do so as well. You should tell both of them they are basically scum, for they are.

Your freind has had man trouble? Do tell? Is this a suprise to anyone? She has no morals or decency and she finds men of the same caliber. Gee, I wonder why she would have problems?

I happen to think that the reason we do have so many problems today is basically because so many are afraid to open their mouths and call a spade a spade. To all those who say we should not judge, you are completly wrong. Yes, we are to judge a tree by its fruits. Thats what makes us know if it is a cherry or apple tree. Same with people. You know what they are by how they act, what they condone, what they say, etc.

Maybe the reason that we have so many horrid and immoral people is because it doesnt sting, embarrass or cost them much for being that way anymore.

Answer 2

So many reasons why and combination of them I could be here for an hour trying to list them all, so let's get down to the nitty gritty: Selfish, lackung any real common sense and good judgment in the matter and delusional. Selfish because they don't care who all is hurt by their home wreckinhg, wife, children and other immediate family. Destroying a home and familyperiod. Lacking common sense: The married man cheated on his wife, lied, deceived had to put forth some real effort to do so and the home wrecker doesn't think he will do one or all of them to her? Reward a cheater with a relationship? With marriage, with children? Delusional because they honestly believe they can turn a cheater into a good husband and believe that there won't be any reprocutions for both the home wrecker and cheating husbands wrong doings. The wife and or children aren't going anywhere and his attitude is going to become pretty nasty once he is paying child support, alimony while trying to keep a roof over his head. He is going to have a many a days when he thinks better of his decision and will more than likely take it out on the home wrecker and likely to return to his wife. Like I said I could keep going, but what is the point. Home wreckers around the world think they will be the one to beat the odds, to live happily ever after with an adulterer. And yet time and time again it is proven the odds are so stacked against this kind of relationship that one has a better chance hitting a 10 million dollar jackpot on a slot machine in Vegas.

Answer 3

If she's as weak as she sounds, her luck with men won't be changing soon. Ask her if she has any morals, "stepbrother"? She needs counseling for her self-esteem, and her loosing her baby should have been a wake up call on the relationship being a mistake. There are too many guys out in the world for her to be messing up another family. She's only a "buddy" call for him whenever his wife is pregnant with all the kids they have. If you are her real friend, you'd tell her these things, what's the worse she can do, stop talking to you. He'll make her stop talking to you if he finds out you are trying to tell her right, let her know this too.

Answer 4

I'm assuming these people are all adults, so what they do is their own business. However, you have every right to let your friend know that you object to her behavior, and that you won't associate with her while she is behaving this way. Just because your friend has no morals, doesn't mean you have to compromise yours. Tell her as long as she is living with that couple, and continuing that relationship, you don't want to see her. If she no longer wants to be your friend, it wouldn't be any big loss. Good luck.

Answer 5

Your friend needs some serious intervention in her life. And that is not your duty. Try to convince her to see a professional to teach her about morals, goals, and life in general. If not for herself, at very least for her child.

Answer 6

I agree with "Mr. JW" I read a quote once that said, "tell me who your friends are, and I'll tell you the type of person you are. Let her know how you feel, & what she is doing is wrong.

Answer 7

Seems you have to much time on your hands. Meddling in others businesses is no way to live, & before you try to justify remember everybody makes mistakes. The only way to learn from them is to realize on OUR OWN! So do your friend a favor & listen to her ups & downs but that's it. Let her make her own bed, so she can lay in it.

Answer 8

no its not your business if it works for them whats the problem. the only problem i see is if one of them were being dishonest and lying. but if everyone knows and there still ok about it sounds like he is a lucky man

Answer 9

your best friend was pregnant by her own stepbrother! she needs to move out of there house and get some morals.

Answer 10

You should hang out with real and mature people. You be hanging with a bunch of f'n monkeys.