We started dating a month & a half ago - he was just divorced in June ( I think I was his 1st relationship since the divorce). Everything was going great - we hung out out almost everyday. We started having sex 2 weeks into the relationship. The last couple of weeks have been hectic w/ traveling for work & we have not seen much of each other at all. Then last week, I called him to see if everything was ok. He said we took things too fast (being recently divorced) & he needs a break right now. But would still like to chat. I am confused to what he means by a break then - I think he still is interested in me & likes me, but got scared. He also found out last week that his ex-wife is engaged to the man she cheated on him with. I think that put him over the edge. I also believe that he thinks I am more serious about the relationship. I'm a very independent person & also need space. Should I call him and explain myself better - I feel like I didn't get that chance when we spoke last.
2007-02-14 03:53:14 · 7 answers · asked by XC_Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You got it right.
So he asked you for space and slowing down. Do just that. He just got out of marriage and is just natural that he wants to play the field some more. Youa re also his reboubd relationship, yes , he he thinks highly about you and cares, but he doesn't want a serious girlfriend now.
My advice to you is to loosesn up the straps on him. He may feel as if you are cornering him into being serious. This may not be the case, but you know men. Do NOT call him, he will eventually and when he does, without mayour drama, tell him that you wanted to clarify that you are not twisting his arm into a commited relationship, that you are independent and that you want to have fun and that a;; that you want and that he doesn't have to be scared about getting close to you or leading you on.
Now, if you say this, you have to MEAN it. If he sticks around, gets closer with the promise that you want to have fiun and then later you camoe crying demanding an engament...then what. If you like him and want to have fun with him, go for it. If you want to get married to him one day, then find someone else, he is NOT for grabs honey.
Good luck
2007-02-14 04:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is scared and interested at the same time. Be careful as he may also be on the rebound here. Take things really slow and dont push or rush him. He still needs time to get past the divorce and the pain of it all and how it has impacted his life. He does need a break right now so slow it way down and give him that time and break that he needs. Yes you should definitley call him and tell him how you feel and what you are like too. He needs to know this. I have to agree with Nicole here . It may be better for you to wait fo have him call you then you can explain things and this way he feels like he has had some time and space and he will be more open to hearing what you have to say. Hope this helps some.
2007-02-14 12:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started to date my husband almost Right after his divorce. and his wife was a whore and a tramp and cheated like crazy when that happens to a guy it make him unsure of himself and yes even scares him it will just take him a little time to get back in the swing of dating and feeling comfortable with another girl yes give him space but at the same time let him now that you will be their for him if he ever needs to talk to some one and tell him if he wants to take it slow that's fine let him know you like him but don't come on to him to strong it might scare him put your self in his shoes for a min you love this girl with all your heart and you thought she was happy then you find out shes bin cheating on you and who knows what else think about how you would feel? It sounds like hes into you just move slow until he lets you know hes ready to take if further. good luck
2007-02-14 13:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, leave him alone and give him some space. the next time he calls you then you can explain it to him. he has other things that hes dealing with right now. try to understand. be ready because it might be very long time before you hear from him again if you ever do.
2007-02-14 12:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is still healing from the divorce. In my oppinion you dont need him. he needs counciling, apparently he's still in Love with his ex-wife.
2007-02-14 12:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u in love if u is quit having sex
2007-02-14 12:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by johnathan b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetly should. If you don't talk to him you will never know.
2007-02-14 11:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by sanj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋