I was looking for a credit card and I looked under the bed, I thought it may have fallen there, and I found my husband's high school yearbook, and he had printed up erotic pictures of naked girls from the internet and has been keeping them in this yearbook, hidden in a weird spot, behind and under the bed obviously so I wouldn't find them. My husband and I look at porn together and it's all good, he knows I don't care if he looks at porn but why would he need to print up pictures of naked chicks? And secondly, why would he hide it from me and not tell me about it? We're really open and honest with each other so this doesn't make any sense to me. I want to talk to him about it but I don't want to sound accusatory or make him feel bad, I just want to know why he's hiding stuff from me. And why he needs pictures of naked chicks when I could be naked whenever he wants. How do I talk to my husband about this?
2007-02-14 03:50:49 · 7 answers · asked by Lola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thanks for all the answers so far, guys. That helps. We have a really happy marriage and i bet he does just need his own space. I really don't care that he's looking at other chicks, I care that he's hiding it from me, does that make any sense, or am I being irrational?
2007-02-14 05:52:55 · update #1
He may be using them to get aroused so he can please you. Or maybe he fantasizes about those girls in the pics. Or maybe he looks at them while getting himself off when you aren't around.
There could be numerous reasons. I just gave you the top three, and the last one is probably the closest of the three.
2007-02-14 04:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is there a need to talk to him about the situation? As long as he isn't cheating or looking at or buying twisted porn - let it be. Married men and women both need a little excitement and perhaps he gets a little excitement by what he's doing. He can get with you whenever he wants but like I said, a few porn pictures are much better than cheating.
Try this... let it go for a couple of months and check to see if the pictures change. Also, look to see if the type of women change or if there is one particular style and determine if that is the polar opposite of you... try to learn and understand before asking questions. Talking to him right away could cause a wave or two.
2007-02-14 12:20:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cdub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this question is a little weird you let him look at porn with you so why would he see this as anything different. now i don't agree with either the situations but maybe he thinks it's OK and if you don't feel that way talk to him ask him if he thought you would care or ask him like this i was looking for my credit card i was tarring the house apart trying to find it and the last place i was looking was under the bed and i was pulling everything out and a few pics fell out of your year book. I don't know why you have them maybe you think its OK because we watch stuff to get her but i don't really like the sneaking behind my back to do it you know you can be open with me so why didn't you tell me. I would approach it in that way just be calm and understanding and tell him how you feel about it so it doesn't happen again. just don't let him try to turn it around on you like you were looking through his stuff. because you weren't
2007-02-14 13:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds benign. Own space thing..hmmm..could be.You must be a pretty self confident lady. Sounds like you have adopted the old "if ya can't beat 'um, then join 'um " perspective. Or perhaps you just like to allow urself the same license. Why would he hide it from you then? Doesn't make sense. Maybe there is something to that notion about a dirty little secret? It just isn't any fun if it's not naughty? Wish that I could have ur attitude, but that kinda stuff ticks me off in soooo many ways. Cheers!
2007-02-14 14:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd definately have a serious talk with him and let him no that under NO circumstances will you wash his crusty jack - off socks.
Threatened with having to do his own laundry ought change his mind.
2007-02-14 12:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is masturbating and may by ashamed of it. If the pictures have a clothing trend try following it. Let the poor guy have his private moments.
2007-02-14 12:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he is a pervert. And that he should only be looking at pictures of you....Thats really gross to look at someone other than your partner......Thats what you ask for when you get married..Only one person to have sex with, look at, and be with for the rest of your life...And if he dont like it. Get a divorce..You could also get marriage counseling.
2007-02-14 12:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by matt b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋