when i got married who comes first me or her family i think the husband?

Answer 1

Husband

Answer 2

Obviously the husband first, family second. When you get married your husband IS your new family. Family always comes first. You made the commitment to him and he IS your everything now. Husband should always come first.

Answer 3

Unless you are referring to her children - kids should always come first for both of you!
I don't think it should have to be a choice between either - both need to be understanding of the needs of the other. Her family needs to realize how important your role is in her life and you need to realize how important their role is in her life. She should not have to cut her family out because you are now in the picture and you should not expect her to do this.
You both may have what is called different family-dynamics. Maybe your family was not as close knit as hers is? You need to get to a point, through counseling perhaps, where you feel comfortable being integrated into the family. She may need to realize that you will need some hand-holding to do this.
Just remember - if you force her to choose either you or her family . . . her family has been there much longer for her. Compromise is almost always the best answer.

I just read through the answers that were posted while I was writing this. Sleepinliv's answer is the perfect answer, I think. Simple and well put. Period.

Answer 4

The husband comes first, You. You are now her immediate family

Answer 5

The husband should come first, however, the husband shouldn't be asking his wife to choose between the two. If you are loving and kind to your wife and not putting her in bad situations, then she should definitly be putting you first. Not that you are one of those guys, I don't know, but some guys think that putting their husband first means she has to answer to his every whim despite her own wants.

Answer 6

Yes the husband or wife is to come first in the marriage. we are to leave our family and cleave to our spouse. This means we leave or father and mother and siblings to live with our spouse and to build a new home and family of our own. We still love our mom and dad and siblings BUT we now have a new family to love and to raise on our own as well. We still visit family at times and do things with them and we still honor our father and our mother but that is as far as it goes. Hope this makes sense here.

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Answer 7

well i had a problem when we first got married//// my husband had trouble cutting the strings to his family not that the strings have to be cut completely but he was putting his family first... i had to really give him an ultimatum either i was first or i wished him a happy life with his mother and sister!!! and i hoped they had beautiful kids together!!!! he finally got it and i am now first or i should say 2nd 1st is GOd then your spouse then your children

Answer 8

your right, you come first. if family members comes before the spouse then there is a big problem. Read the bible- it tells you when married, you leave the family for spouse and become as one.

Answer 9

husband comes first

Answer 10

If you have to ask, then you must think she has to be chained right to your side at all times. Yes, the marriage should be the priority, but perhaps you are a bit controlling or jealous and she doesn't want to make you #1. My man would never ask me to choose, we have a great relationship so I naturally want to put him first. But she can't ignore her family either. There must be a balance somewhere.