My current girlfriend and I have an active, exciting sex life and I feel okay about trying anything with her because I have a strong bond to her. Lately she has gotten into something that I just don`t feel to good about. It started when we were out with one of her g/f`s. We were going home after a fun night out and we were in the back seat of her g/f`s car and my g/f started being intimate with me and as always I enjoy it. She unziped my fly and pulled out my erect penis and begin stroking it and she told her friend to look at it as she did. She focused her rear mirror down so she could watch her jerk me off. I just went a long with it and didn`t think much of it. A few days latter we were back at my Appt. and I was in the shower and the door opens and it`s my g/f with the same friend of hers and she is telling her to see me in the shower. I have a piercing that goes through my pee hole out the top of my penis head and it supports a peice of jewlry and when having sex with my g/f she
2007-02-14 03:27:45 · 19 answers · asked by stewilliamsx2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
says it is the most plewasure she ever had and she trells her friend this and that she needs to try it. She says to me to do it to her so she can try it. I did and it didn`t stop there. Her friend is calling me and I don`t feel like my girlfriend really cares about me and I don`t feel good about this either because I believe sex is to be respected and not shared with others (thats called cheating) To me when you give yourseves to one another that is a treasured gift and it means a lot to me and since this has all been going on I feel like every thing I base my feelings on for my g/f are just forgotten and not valued for what they truly are. Should I feel this way? Or am I too old fashioned? Is this what every one else does when trhey love someone? I just feel like I need to draw a line about the trying new things with my g/f because this is just feeling like a worthless meaningless relationship to me.
2007-02-14 03:28:30 · update #1
leave your gf alone and give her time to think whats going on in ur relationship.. she will realize it that she was doing something wrong to ruin your relationship...
2007-02-14 03:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by hotchixxxz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants you to do her friend then something is wrong. Look closely at your relationship. Does she really feel as close as you do? Any woman who really loves you and has any self respect would not risk the emotional baggage that can crop up when engaging in such acts. I'm sure it's physically gratifying for her, but the heart often is in a different place than the libido. You should question what is in her heart. .....I agree with the self esteem comment below 100%.
2007-02-14 11:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by Athena 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...no matter what you both agree to, it is cheating. Now whether it's approved by your lover is a different thing. How strong is your bond if you can do this? Or if she would condone this kind of behavior? Would you go for her doing this with a guy? I don't know, there's alot of things you should think about before agreeing to it. Most importantly, make sure that this girl is STD free.
2007-02-14 11:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Girl, Empty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a lot of detail...anyway if you don't want to don't. Explain how you feel. Truth is she may not agree, but that's for her to figure out. You stick to your guns. If she is bored that's not something you have doen wrong. You sound like you keep things interesting. So hey let her know what she means to you and why you don't feel right. Hopefully your commitment will mean more than a trashy fling.
2007-02-14 12:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by muzicizlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are living the fantasy most men have! But... it sounds like you respect the act of sex within relationships - good for you! It does sound like your girlfriend is enjoying crossing the lines and you should talk to her about how you feel this is cheating and you are not comfortable with it. If she does not understand your feelings then it may be time to cut the ties. Good luck.
2007-02-14 11:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to earn some real brownie points, tell her that it would kill you insid eto touch another girl.
ALSO, here is a warning for you:
This girl wants multiple partners, therefore she has a serious esteem complex, and wont think twice about cheating on you, and she'll use your 3-some as a get-out-of-jail-free card.
Be careful
2007-02-14 11:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by The Date Doctor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your current gf isn't marriage material.
My guess is that she is bi and freaky, which can be good for a cheap thrill, but not good for long term.
Start looking around for somewhere else to live so you can break up with her. She prob won't care & is prob sexing the friend while not there.
2007-02-14 11:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a girlfriend. I am not sure if there is more to say then that. If she was serious, like you want to marry her, she wouldn't want you to do her friend. I mean in some cultures men take more then one wife, but doesn't mean the other women want to watch. So the answer...well you know my answer.
2007-02-14 11:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jonathan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our bodies were not made for sexual immorality. Sexual immorality is not good for you. When you join your body with a prostitute, it becomes one with her. Run away from sexual sin. No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. Don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God?
2007-02-14 12:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with your instincts. If you persue this insane relationship and your g/f fantansies you will only have yourself to blame in the end. So whatever you agree to do make sure it is your decision.
Have fun while it last.
2007-02-14 11:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋