2007-02-14 03:25:56 · 21 answers · asked by EmGee 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's all about the little things... don't even ask if she's feeling OK because you know she isn't and it just gets annoying to say "no, I'm not". Bring her pillows to make her more comfortable, if there is something she's attached to that helps nausea - try and ask her if she would like some if she's looking "green". Massages are wonderful, it's amazing what a 5 minute rub will do! When she's getting up to get something, jump up and do it for her! Having my husband dote on me always made me feel better just because I knew he was putting me first. Good for you for asking a question like this, your wife is lucky to have someone so considerate and good luck with everything!!
2007-02-14 03:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Draw her a warm bath, and don't just leave her in the bathroom alone and go watch tv while she's in there. Talk to her - about the baby, about how she feels, about anything. Just sit and talk to her. Help her put lotion on, especially on her back, and give her a massage while you're at it. Instead of asking her to get something for you, ask if there's anything you can get for her. Tell her how beautiful she looks, and mean it. And for the love of God don't start that sentence with "even though you're pregnant," or "I know you've gained 30 lbs but I still think you're sexy." That will only make her want to throw something at you, trust me. And one of the most wonderful gifts you can probably give her is to do some chores around the house so she doesn't have to. The other day I got up from a nap and hubby had cleaned the kitchen top to bottom and was attempting some laundry. It was amazing!
I think the BEST thing you can do though is just be there. My husband is in the military and travels a lot for work. It's very scary and frustrating when I feel like something is wrong with me or the baby and he can't even answer his phone, much less go to the doctor with me. Make yourself as available to her as you possibly can, so she doesn't have to worry about what would happen if she went into labor and you weren't there. It will really set her mind at ease.
2007-02-14 11:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how far along she is--
Just love her,help her with whatever she needs, and keep telling her how beautiful she is, and how much you love her tummy LOL.
Usually early in pregnancy the body is being stretched and poked and you are in general always uncomfortable.
Mid way through the pregnancy things kind of even out, she feels pretty good, looks beautiful, and has energy.
Towards the end though----well you try to do what you want to do with a 20 pound beach ball strapped to your midsection!! Back hurts, legs swell, feet swell, etc. LOL
Just let her know that what she feels is real and you empathize with her......then start talking about the baby's room or anything else to get her mind off the many, real, aches and pains.
Congratulations!!!!
2007-02-14 11:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by ceetee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her aches and pains are very difficult for her, so just be understanding and help her out as much as possible. Give her massages, help her do a few things around the house. Tell her she is beautiful and so on. I am 34 weeks with my 4th and my husband works out of town for weeks at a time and its so depressing for me because I need him more during this time than any other time. Im now on bedrest too and it makes it even harder. :( Just deal with it best you can and be thankful you are not the one actually feeling the pains.
2007-02-14 11:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, You can make her feel comfortable. Like you can heat the bed with a heat pad before she climbs in or get her massages. You can also listen to everything she needs you to do and actually do them. Nothing is more frustrating then a man who doesn't do anything for the other person when they are in need but make ignorant jokes. And that will help you "deal" with your wife's pregnancy.
2007-02-14 11:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband rubs my feet and massages my back...he will help me sit up (its getting harder to do that from a laying down position)...he will also repeatedly tell me how beautiful I am and how sexy he still thinks I am...those things help. A pregnant woman not only feels bad physically..but if she's like me she feels huge and disgusting too!
Offer to get up and get her drinks, snacks, tissues, whatever she needs so she doesn't have to...those things really, really help.
My husband also tells me that if he could he would carry the baby for me so I wouldn't have to. Obviously, it's not possible, but I appreciate the thought.
He also tells me how proud he is of me for doing this...
All these things can make a pregnant woman feel a little bit better....you don't need to make huge, grand gestures...just let her know that YOU are there for HER.
Good luck!
2007-02-14 11:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind, patient and give her a good ear and shoulder to lean on. Remember pregnancy does not last forever, but also please remember that her body is host for another growing inside her. It is hard work and tough on our bodies. There is a lot of pain for us and having someone try to be understanding to that is the best thing you could do for her. Aside from maybe some regular massage.
2007-02-14 14:18:53 · answer #7 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH YEA!! SUCK IT UP PARTNER! you did this too! You have no idea how it feels having a person inside you. Kicking,rolling,jamming your ribs. The sore boobs,the extra heavy belly to lug,all the pains and uncomfort. your feet from all the weight, Your hormones are going crazy. be a little understanding. I hope you are better when the baby gets here.
good luck! (to her!) (unless I'm misunderstanding your question)
2007-02-14 11:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by same girl/new name :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rub whatever is hurting her (most likely her back or legs/feet) just sympathize with her. there are some miserable times being pregnant. if she's hot, take a cool cloth and rub it along her forehead, back, legs, ect. My husband did that for me, (it was the middle of the night) and it put me right back to sleep. and one more thing thats bound to make her feel better, make sure you never let her forget that she's beautiful. pregnant women seem to... think differently about themselves. Good luck and hope i helped!
2007-02-14 11:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask her what she would like you to do. Because you would only make her evil. I mean my boyfriend was playing around with me last night but he was making me angry because I was trying to sleep. So the best thing to do is ask her what she would like and see if you can do it for her. Massage her feet and massage her back. Try taking her out some where.
2007-02-14 11:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Petra A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋